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5 Things Singles Can Do To Be Financially Stable

No one cares about your financial life more than you. As a single woman, I learned this fact years ago. My financial success depends on how well I can build and manage long-term wealth. I don’t have a spouse who can bail me out of debt or a financial crisis. So I have to keep my finances in order. Besides, …

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Racism Within Christian Dating Circles

“He’s cute,” I thought to myself. “I wonder why he’s still single?” After a few minutes of pondering, I decided to do something completely out of my shy character. I asked, “So, why is a handsome man like you still single (*wink wink*)?” I was expecting him to reply, “Oh, I just haven’t met the right woman yet; I’m still …

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Is Unforgiveness Keeping You From Your Blessing?

Busyness and chaos only began to describe the week I’d been having, not to mention a lingering sinus infection. Relaxing and reconnecting with God were a couple of my top priorities for the weekend. I showed up to my scheduled massage appointment, anticipating an hour of relaxation and relief.  About 10 minutes into the massage, I had a flash of …

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5 Ways To Keep From Withering In Waiting

“Will I get married, Siri?” I was in my mid-30s, still waiting for my man to materialize. College and grad school? Check. God, apparently, was in no hurry to marry me off, so more check marks followed: finishing postdoc; getting licensed; starting my practice. Meanwhile, grad school friends had taken the same amount of time not just to get their …

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God, If He’s Not For Me, Don’t Let Him Contact Me

God, if this is not what You have for me, then don’t even let him contact me. I stared at the words I’d just written in my prayer journal, and wondered if I really meant them. I knew my tendency to pray what I should pray, even if my sincerity was questionable.  A friend had approached me about setting me up with a …

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When You’re Tired Of Being The Strong Single Mom

Being a single mom is often associated with images of a super mom wearing a super hero cape, or words that describe someone who is tough and independent. While I can mostly agree with those things, I also know that as a single mom myself, I have had my fair share of moments that I refer to as “weak.” Recently, …

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Qualities You Must Have On Your Future Spouse List

I had been praying for two years for God to bring a godly man into my life. I prayed daily and even “helped God out” by making a list of all the godly qualities said man should have. Maybe you’ve done this too: He should love the Lord. He must be passionate about his work. He should have the patience …

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What Does It Look Like To Wait For A Mate?

My heart was in agony. I couldn’t handle the unknown any longer. I needed rest. So I asked God a simple question: “Yes or no?” I was actually in a healing and encouraging season of life, after being in ‘deep valley’ and ‘refining fire’ seasons. At that point, I had been single again for 7 years. My first husband left …

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I Never Thought I’d Get Divorced

Divorced. Single again. Now what? Being in a broken and abusive marriage was hard. Coming out of it was even harder. I was lonely, sad, depressed, angry and hurt. My dreams had been crushed. The life I thought I was going to have no longer was. I had to move back in with my parents and carried a huge amount …

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5 Tips To Grow In Confidence And Achieve Your Dreams!

I’m confident.  Or at least I thought I was … I’ve always prided myself as a confident person. But lately I’ve begun to question my long-held belief. The questioning began the day I picked up a pencil to write and found myself in a deep inner dialogue. It went something like this… Hello, pencil! My trusted friend.  Why do you …

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