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In the SINGLENESS category you will find articles that speak to your life as an unmarried person – for those that want to remain single or desire to be married. The topics include: BEING SINGLE, SINGLE AGAIN and SINGLE PARENTING. Never married? You may feel your life is on hold in some areas but there are plenty of areas of your life and character that can be developed. Or you may be learning how to be single again after many years because of divorce or loss of a spouse. Single Matters brings expert advice to your life as a single parent, dealing with grief or questions regarding your “still single” status. See this season through God’s eyes and your hope, joy and strength will be restored.

Believing In Your Destiny When All You See Is Wilderness

Destiny is a funny thing. We all want to believe it exists in us, but it feels mystical and elusive. It conjures up feelings of great longing and hopeless impossibility. But there is destiny in you. God has an inevitable, wonderful future designed for you. Wrap your brain around it. Let it sink in so that even your subconscious knows …

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I’m So Sorry You’re Not Married

I’m seeing a trend in today’s conservative churches concerning people who are struggling with their singleness — mostly women. Although men have the advantage since they are the pursuers, it also applies to them. The trend is people telling women that God may not have someone for them. I understand the heart behind that. Singleness is a foreign concept to married …

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Confronting The Uncomfortable Moments In Your Singleness

As scary as it might be, there will be moments in your single season when you’re going to have to get uncomfortable. I was looking at my vision board recently and saw a quote about living outside of your comfort zone. It held me accountable to something that I knew deep down in my heart — something that I wanted …

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3 Tips For Single Dads On Father’s Day

As I sit here writing this, it’s Mother’s Day morning. In the month of June, we celebrate fathers. This time of year, I can’t help but reflect on the journey of single parenting. Deuteronomy 11:18-20 (MSG) is one of my favorite parenting scriptures: Place these words on your hearts. Get them deep inside you. Tie them on your hands and …

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God, Haven’t I Waited Long Enough?

Haven't I Waited Long Enough

Remember the story of Sleeping Beauty, the lovely maiden who was cursed to wait until her Prince arrived to rescue her with a kiss and whisk her off to Ever After? For years and years she slept, unable to move forward with her life, trapped by her circumstances, all her hopes and dreams suspended, waiting for her Prince to arrive. …

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5 Reasons He Hasn’t Asked You Out

5 reasons why he hasn't asked you out

If you’re anything like many of the single women I’ve come into contact with, you have pretty much given up on the idea of being recklessly pursued by a man. Forget the fairy-tale dream of being chased after in an attempt to win your heart.  Forget the love letters, the roses, the poems and songs.  Forget it all. At this …

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What To Do While You Are Waiting For Your Mate

You’re waiting for “the one,” but what do you do in the meantime? What else can singles do to bide their time while they wait? Every situation and relationship is different, but this is my story. Rather than pining for “the one,” I began doing a few things that helped me in the waiting. 1. Make a list. This may …

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A Letter To My Single (Girl) Friends

Hey, Girlie! Singleness is a topic we’ve discussed numerous times. Whether it’s been over coffee at the local coffee spot or while sitting on your couch. We’ve lamented or ranted or complained … or cried. I’ve seen your tears and your struggles, and I’ve seen your strength and resilience too. God made women both delicate and strong, and that is …

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When You Don’t Enjoy Single Parenting Anymore

All too often I hear myself thinking about how I never planned on being a single mom at the age of 32. I think about my failed marriage and dwell on the “what if’s.” My thoughts then shift to my most recent dating failures and how the dating scene is really a disappointment. By the time I knew it, I’d …

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Why The Prejudice Against Singles Is Real

“Most people don’t know they have prejudices until they are forced to celebrate what they are prejudiced against.” I wrote that thought this morning after listening to a call-in radio show talking about singles and the church. I had been interviewed by them a few weeks prior and was now at home listening to the follow-up conversation live on-air. One …

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