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I Never Thought I’d Get Divorced

Divorced. Single again. Now what? Being in a broken and abusive marriage was hard. Coming out of it was even harder. I was lonely, sad, depressed, angry and hurt. My dreams had been crushed. The life I thought I was going to have no longer was. I had to move back in with my parents and carried a huge amount …

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5 Tips For Married People With Single Friends

During my years of prolonged singleness, I definitely experienced discouragement. In addition to providing my amazing single friends, God also ministered encouragement through certain married friends who communicated sensitivity, love, and respect with their words and actions. In light of my own experience, I recently compiled a mental list of ways married couples can bless their single friends. I’m not …

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Risks of Living Together Before Marriage

If you live together with someone before getting married, your chances of divorce increase significantly. Also, almost every problem people think they are avoiding by living together actually increases—abuse, infidelity, breakup, etc. Even though cohabiting with someone might seem like a good idea, it is a practical disaster. The worst thing about cohabitation is the mindset that drives it. To …

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Dear Singles: Don’t Miss Your Moment

Dear Singles, I know. Another letter telling you all the things you should focus on while you’re single. How you should make this your time to serve, and how you should enjoy those years of doing what you want before life gets crazy, and blah blah blah. This isn’t about that. Because the truth about being single is that most …

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3 Tips For Dating An Introvert

I am introvert. I don’t like small talk or talking to a lot of people at a party. I’d rather have a deep conversation with a few people. When I need to recharge, I hide from everyone. Ah … alone time. But I also am very relational. I love people. I like helping people, having folks over for dinner, going …

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Are You OK Having An Interracial Relationship?

If you are a white person, have you ever thought about braiding a black child’s hair? How about the initial surprise when people realize that this brown boy’s mom is white? Are you OK as a black female bringing a white man to the house? Are you OK with the way people will look and stare or comment? I’m a …

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Believing In Your Destiny When All You See Is Wilderness

Destiny is a funny thing. We all want to believe it exists in us, but it feels mystical and elusive. It conjures up feelings of great longing and hopeless impossibility. But there is destiny in you. God has an inevitable, wonderful future designed for you. Wrap your brain around it. Let it sink in so that even your subconscious knows …

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2 Ways Your Mindset Can Become A Roadblock In Your Single Journey

We face roadblocks in our single journeys that can keep us from getting what God has for us in life. One of those roadblocks can very well be tied to what goes on in our minds. Sure, we can blame other people, or we can blame our circumstances, but what about our mindsets? For as he thinks in his heart, …

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Standards Vs. Expectations: Why The Difference Is Important For Christian Singles

Those of you who have been single for a while now: have you heard any of these lovely statements or questions from well-meaning family members or acquaintances (because your single friends know better)? “That last one was really nice. Why did you let them get away?” “Don’t you think your standards are too high?” “I think you expect too much …

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Why Hanging Out Is Really Dating

We have created this fantasy regarding dating, especially in Christian circles, that you wait for God and sooner or later you get “the one.” If you do it right, there’s no muss and no fuss. Well, that certainly hasn’t been my experience. As Christians we boycotted “dating” and created all of these other pseudo-dating practices to facilitate the fantasy. We …

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