Have you been in a bad relationship? I, like many women (and some men) I’ve known, have experienced trauma from being abused. Whether it was physical, psychological and/or sexual abuse by someone you trusted — who was supposed to love and care for you — or a total stranger, abuse damages your soul. It has left many of us fearful …

The autumn leaves are turning beautiful colors as they float to the ground. The days are getting cooler and shorter. And the winter holidays are on their way to your singleness. <insert sigh> Here it comes again, strutting into your life every fall like clockwork, try as you might to avoid or ignore it … that darned cuffing season. We …

In recent years, I haven’t thought of myself as being open to getting married. I had made peace with the thought that I would never have children and would grow old alone. I accepted that my lot was to remain single and learned to enjoy my independence. I became quite comfortable with the idea of being single. I’m not alone; …

There is no “U” in desperation. There should be no “you” in desperation, either. In the dictionary, we find desperation defined as a loss of hope or a surrender to despair. A state of hopelessness leading to rashness. Does any of this sound like anyone’s dating life that you know? Yeah? Let’s talk about it. Desperate Dating Desperate dating leads …

A long time ago in a galaxy far, far away, I had a first love, a first boyfriend. (Man, was that a long time ago!) Do you remember your first love? Wasn’t it magical? I was 19. He’d started liking me late that summer, but wisely and patiently kept his intentions hidden. I had no clue he was testing me by …

Last time, we explored the idea that abstinence preserves the best sexual health experienced by Christian singles. We talked about how sex flourishes shamelessly and unhindered in a committed, biblical marriage where both partners honor Jesus and each other. A few of us have been able to hang on to our virginity, but man, is it tough! We shudder at …

Every once in a while, I run into a Christian single who is chronically drab, dour or otherwise non-celebratory. Whether because of anger over being single, religious doctrine, personality, rebellion against commercialism and snarled traffic, or bad experiences with other humans (such as bad marriages), they’ve developed the attitude that there is really nothing special to celebrate. The current holiday …

As followers of Christ, we understand that faith is the main source of our spiritual identity. We’ve read in the Bible that “faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen” (Hebrews 11:1). We been taught stuff like “Without faith, we cannot please God” (Hebrews 11:6a) and “ask in faith without doubting” (James 1:6a). Yet …

“Sexual health for singles? What are you talking about?” you may be asking. “Aren’t we Christian singles supposed to be staying out of bed?” Well, yes, God does tell us to stay away from unmarried sex, and for good reasons. He is concerned for our sexual safety, even though we are single. He doesn’t just tell us how to think …

I recently moved from the West Coast of the U.S. to the East Coast. There is a very different culture and mindset here, and I am still adjusting to the changes. One thing I did not expect was to see that churches in our area do not have singles groups! I am puzzled. Flabbergasted. Singles comprise nearly half the population …