My good friend and frequent contributor to Single Matters, Kris Swiatocho, is the president and director of the The Singles Network and From His Hands Ministries. Kris has served in ministry in various capacities for the last 25 years. An accomplished trainer and mentor, Kris has a heart to reach and grow leaders so they will in turn reach and grow others. …
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When You Hide Your Past Because Of Shame
The shame that came with getting divorced got so bad that I hid it from new people I met. I moved from Chicagoland to Texas for a new job. I didn’t know a single soul. I figured this was my chance to get a fresh start. When people asked me if I’d been married before I changed the subject, pretended …
Read More »Interview: The Battle With Porn with Dr. Wyatt Fisher
This interview discloses one of the most important things singles need to guard against (or overcome) in order to have a thriving single life and marriage. Dr. Wyatt Fisher is a licensed psychologist in Colorado and a professor at Liberty University. He’s on the Focus and the Family referral list. He’s also the founder of ChristianCrush, the Colorado Marriage Refresh, and Fisher …
Read More »Why I Couldn’t Love Popular People
The heart of my ministry has always been to love people well. Before I was a believer, I wanted to love people well so they loved me back. After I was a believer … well, it sadly was the same motivation. At my high school reunion, one of the popular girl/cheerleaders wanted to talk to me. She was part of …
Read More »Relationship 101: Commit Or Quit
I love asking questions. I’m a curious person. I think this is a good quality, because I used to be pretty bossy. (I’m the eldest child, so it came naturally for me.) But now I try to keep my opinion to myself and just ask questions. I just love finding out how people make decisions and why. I love how …
Read More »Questions Singles Ask Themselves
All singles should have a Facebook relationship status that says “it’s complicated.” One day you feel great about being single, and the next you are in the depths of despair. You proudly declare you are content and then secretly wonder what the heck is wrong. Single life is complicated. If you have a desire to be married, you have probably …
Read More »When You’re Struggling With Rejection
Rejection — it’s inevitable. Sooner or later, every one of us will experience it. Some of us, more than once. And every time it happens, we can’t help but ask ourselves some questions. Usually the first question is Why? Then come the thoughts we rehearse over and over, replaying that moment of rejection … wishing we’d asked more questions or said less in response. Sometimes …
Read More »Grieving The Loss Of Babies I Never Had On Mother’s Day
It was Mother’s Day. My mom lived in another state so I was going to have lunch and celebrate with a family in Texas that had adopted me as a daughter. I loved time with my far away family and my local family. I had two desires ever since I was a little girl. To be a wife and a …
Read More »Prayers For Dreamers
I’m a dreamer. I didn’t know I was a visionary until I started dreaming with God about how I could do something for Him that no one else was doing. Since I started Jill Monaco Ministries and Single Matters, I have done things I’d never dreamed of before. Because before then I didn’t allow myself to dream with Him. I …
Read More »My Worst Christmas Ever
I had just left my husband. I had also just broken up with the man with whom I was having an affair. I was alone. I thought I wanted to be alone, and then on Christmas day I felt the gravity of my decision. I was at my parents’ house surrounded by my siblings. Two of them were married, and …
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