“Congratulations on your third baby!”, “Best wishes on your upcoming marriage!”, “Fantastic news on your engagement!” and similar statements started becoming more and more common as people I knew celebrated milestones. I’d often wondered when my time was coming and asked God how much longer. Maybe that’s part of the reason I entered and stayed in a toxic relationship. Because …

My church is currently doing a series called “What Happy Couples Know.” At first I was discouraged; after all, I’ve been single for nine years now. I don’t have any prospects of a relationship or marriage. I’m not saying that door is closed, but at this moment I’m seeking happiness as a single Christian woman approaching 50. I’m seeking to …

“Run. Bolt before he dies and leaves you heartbroken,” a friend said as I told her about the cancer-surviving man I met in an elevator. Just days before, he and I had become Facebook friends. While scrolling through his profile pictures, I hesitated as I saw the white sash draped over his shoulder.  Not just any white sash, but one …

No one cares about your financial life more than you. As a single woman, I learned this fact years ago. My financial success depends on how well I can build and manage long-term wealth. I don’t have a spouse who can bail me out of debt or a financial crisis. So I have to keep my finances in order. Besides, …

“He’s cute,” I thought to myself. “I wonder why he’s still single?” After a few minutes of pondering, I decided to do something completely out of my shy character. I asked, “So, why is a handsome man like you still single (*wink wink*)?” I was expecting him to reply, “Oh, I just haven’t met the right woman yet; I’m still …

Busyness and chaos only began to describe the week I’d been having, not to mention a lingering sinus infection. Relaxing and reconnecting with God were a couple of my top priorities for the weekend. I showed up to my scheduled massage appointment, anticipating an hour of relaxation and relief.  About 10 minutes into the massage, I had a flash of …

“Will I get married, Siri?” I was in my mid-30s, still waiting for my man to materialize. College and grad school? Check. God, apparently, was in no hurry to marry me off, so more check marks followed: finishing postdoc; getting licensed; starting my practice. Meanwhile, grad school friends had taken the same amount of time not just to get their …

God, if this is not what You have for me, then don’t even let him contact me. I stared at the words I’d just written in my prayer journal, and wondered if I really meant them. I knew my tendency to pray what I should pray, even if my sincerity was questionable.  A friend had approached me about setting me up with a …

Being a single mom is often associated with images of a super mom wearing a super hero cape, or words that describe someone who is tough and independent. While I can mostly agree with those things, I also know that as a single mom myself, I have had my fair share of moments that I refer to as “weak.” Recently, …

I had been praying for two years for God to bring a godly man into my life. I prayed daily and even “helped God out” by making a list of all the godly qualities said man should have. Maybe you’ve done this too: He should love the Lord. He must be passionate about his work. He should have the patience …