I had been praying for two years for God to bring a godly man into my life. I prayed daily and even “helped God out” by making a list of all the godly qualities said man should have. Maybe you’ve done this too: He should love the Lord. He must be passionate about his work. He should have the patience …Read More »
What Does It Look Like To Wait For A Mate?
My heart was in agony. I couldn’t handle the unknown any longer. I needed rest. So I asked God a simple question: “Yes or no?” I was actually in a healing and encouraging season of life, after being in ‘deep valley’ and ‘refining fire’ seasons. At that point, I had been single again for 7 years. My first husband left …Read More »
I Never Thought I’d Get Divorced
Divorced. Single again. Now what? Being in a broken and abusive marriage was hard. Coming out of it was even harder. I was lonely, sad, depressed, angry and hurt. My dreams had been crushed. The life I thought I was going to have no longer was. I had to move back in with my parents and carried a huge amount …Read More »
5 Tips To Grow In Confidence And Achieve Your Dreams!
I’m confident. Or at least I thought I was … I’ve always prided myself as a confident person. But lately I’ve begun to question my long-held belief. The questioning began the day I picked up a pencil to write and found myself in a deep inner dialogue. It went something like this… Hello, pencil! My trusted friend. Why do you …Read More »
Why Hanging Out Is Really Dating
We have created this fantasy regarding dating, especially in Christian circles, that you wait for God and sooner or later you get “the one.” If you do it right, there’s no muss and no fuss. Well, that certainly hasn’t been my experience. As Christians we boycotted “dating” and created all of these other pseudo-dating practices to facilitate the fantasy. We …Read More »
When Controlling Your Life Hurts Your Future
I’ve lived a life built on “What If’s.” And living a “What If” life was slowly killing me. What if I never make more than I do right now? What if I do… What if I never fulfill my life purpose? What if I exceed my every expectation… What if I never find community? What if I develop rich community… Anxiety, …Read More »
When You Feel Like You Don’t Belong
I still remember the day these words were spoken to me at a prophetic training event at church. “I just felt like the Lord says sometimes you feel downcast about yourself. I saw you with a crown on your head. And He just wanted you to know … He wants you to see you how He sees you. He says …Read More »
Cutting Ties With Your Past
I recently took a trip to a place I once called home. What I found was not home. I found a land and a people I once knew. One that I no longer connected to. A land where I no longer felt like me. It’s a strange thing to leave a place one person and return a short time …Read More »
When You Don’t Enjoy Single Parenting Anymore
All too often I hear myself thinking about how I never planned on being a single mom at the age of 32. I think about my failed marriage and dwell on the “what if’s.” My thoughts then shift to my most recent dating failures and how the dating scene is really a disappointment. By the time I knew it, I’d …Read More »
Is Failure Good For You?
Failure is good for you. Think I’m kidding? I’m totally serious. It stings very bitterly at first, and the humiliation lasts for awhile, but the end result is good. I believe a person cannot be truly successful until they have failed at least once in their life. I recently failed at something. I don’t remember failing at something so big …Read More »