I feel for you ladies. I really do. Dating is particularly a little harder for you. For me, dating is relatively easy. I just have to pick a woman. Granted, I might be rejected when I ask someone out, but for the most part, I have control in choosing who I ask. You don’t. You kind of just have to wait …
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Purity Is Greater Than Virginity
Virginity doesn’t mean what it used to mean. Before the easy access of pornography, virginity often meant that someone was pure in their life. Not so much now. Pornography has so oversexualized our culture that you don’t even have to watch it to know what it looks like. You just have to watch the latest Nicki Minaj music video, which leaves very little to the imagination. In the past, men would flip …
Read More »Aging Out Of Singles Ministry
I think some of you identify with the title of this article. You understand before I even start writing. But some of you don’t see the correlation between being single and aging. I mean if you’re single, you’re single. Right? Being single is age independent, meaning age has no bearing on singleness. But in a funny way it does. Baby …
Read More »My Worst Date Ever
One very hot summer day in Dallas, Texas, I was set to meet a lovely, ambitious girl for the first time. She was a very busy girl. She was going to school to be a doctor and also balancing a job as a research assistant at a hospital. And that’s where I was picking her up for our lunch date. …
Read More »When You Feel Like You Will Never Get Married
You had it all planned out. You’d go to college, where there are thousands of singles. You’d lock eyes with someone in Bible study. You’d start studying together. You’d start dating. You’d graduate together. You’d get engaged at 23. Married at 24. First kid at 26. You’d be the cool younger parents. It would be great. Back to reality. You’re …
Read More »Are You OK Having An Interracial Relationship?
If you are a white person, have you ever thought about braiding a black child’s hair? How about the initial surprise when people realize that this brown boy’s mom is white? Are you OK as a black female bringing a white man to the house? Are you OK with the way people will look and stare or comment? I’m a …
Read More »I’m So Sorry You’re Not Married
I’m seeing a trend in today’s conservative churches concerning people who are struggling with their singleness — mostly women. Although men have the advantage since they are the pursuers, it also applies to them. The trend is people telling women that God may not have someone for them. I understand the heart behind that. Singleness is a foreign concept to married …
Read More »You Can Be Too Intense But You Can Never Be Too Intentional In Dating
I recently read an article concerning being “too” intentional when dating. I was little caught off-guard by the title. I was wondering if the writer was going to go with that train of thought or just go somewhere else with it. I have tried to use somewhat catchy titles in posts to get someone’s attention. It’s part of being a …
Read More »It’s Okay To Cry
Have you ever been so overwhelmed that there were no words to describe what you’re feeling? Thoughts and anxieties raced through your head and body. Even your closest friends would be of no help. There are simply no words. All you can do is race inside your room, shut the door, grab your pillow and scream. Your pillow swallows your …
Read More »Sharing My Love For Lust With My Future Spouse
I wish I didn’t love porn. I don’t watch porn and have been freed from it, but I wish I didn’t love it. I wouldn’t have to have my cable box filtered, my amazon prime filtered, or have other men keep me accountable. For example, take sour cream. I hate sour cream. However, I don’t have to avoid it. I don’t …
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