I’m really tired of hearing men’s prayers about their future wives. These are the prayers that, more often than not, sound like a fairy tale. I mean they do pray for the right character traits. They pray for a wife who is a Proverbs 31 woman. They might even go down the list: how she is a hard worker, how …

Ever had enough of heartbreak? Ever had enough of the pain that comes with it? The pain that comes with another failed relationship is something I don’t care to experience again. I’ve had three relationships in my 34 years here on this earth. Each of them has been different. Each of them have been equally painful. My last relationship was the …

Hooking up. It’s crossed my mind a few times in the past few weeks. Prior to that, it had been a year since I thought about it. That’s because I was in a committed relationship during that year. Now that it hasn’t worked out and I’m healing, lots of different thoughts are running through my head. Occasionally that one rears its …

It was around this time last year in January that I went to Puerto Rico for vacation. I was really excited to go. My first language is Spanish, and they use American currency there, so I thought it would be such a cool experience. I tend to be very economical with my money (call it “cheap” if you want to …

Not too long ago I was in a relationship with a very sweet woman that I cared for deeply. We patiently dated for two months before I asked her to be my girlfriend. I was really excited to take this step in our relationship. I wanted to tell her how much I cared for her. I wanted to hold her hand. …

When I was in a 12-step program, it was really easy to be single. It was recommended we not date while on the program, and I knew I was not in a place to date, so I put myself in a 1-year sanction from dating. It was rather comical, because some of my guy friends would ask, “Hey, you think …

I’m so tired of crying. I cried when my first girlfriend and I broke up and I cried when my second girlfriend and I broke up. I felt this deep sadness and despair. I contemplated what I could have done differently to keep the relationship going. I wrestled with those thoughts and tried to put together the jigsaw that seemed …

I struggled for many years with pornography. It seemed like the harder I tried to stop, the more I failed. Oftentimes I wondered if I had committed blasphemy, or even questioned my salvation — anything to explain why the Lord would not deliver me from my addiction. Based on what I’d heard at church, I tried to figure out what …

I love Monday nights. And it has nothing to do with football. I’m a facilitator for a sex addiction program called Pure Desires at my church. Every week men come and pour their hearts out as they dive deep into the issues that have manifested the bondage. My heart breaks with them as I hear many stories of abuse and abandonment—all of which …

As you read in my post in May 2015, there are seasons where things are a little more difficult than than other seasons. Our spiritual walk will always be full of peaks and valleys and within these peaks and valleys there are climaxes where we are overwhelmed with joy but also overrun by despair and depression. Looking back at these moments I …