Tired of hearing advice about your singleness but sometimes want to hear God in the midst of it? We want to be a resource so you can find what encourages you no matter what stage of singleness you are in. You’ll find books we endorse on being single in the church, dating, porn addiction, pregnancy before marriage and more.
Single Matters Contributors
We like to do book reviews and often share new books from our very own regular contributors! Many of them have been ministering to you through their monthly articles and God has opened doors for them to get published! You can find some interviews with these authors as well on our Featured page.
Truth Lies and the Single Woman by Allison Flexer
Cupid is a Procrastinator by Kate Hurley
Matched 4 Marriage Meant 4 Life by Nate Stevens
True Love Dates by Deb Fileta
Pastors
With so much advice going around about what God has to say about singleness and marriage, it’s good to know married pastors have taken the time to minister to the often overlooked demographic. Take time to find out what the Word of God says about being single, dating and the covenant of marriage.
The Mingling of Souls: God’s Design for Love, Marriage, Sex, and Redemption by Matt Chandler
The Song of Solomon offers strikingly candid—and timeless—insights on romance, dating, marriage, and sex. We need it. Because emotions rise and fall with a single glance, touch, kiss, or word. And we are inundated with songs, movies, and advice that contradicts God’s design for love and intimacy.
Matt Chandler helps navigate these issues for both singles and marrieds by revealing the process Solomon himself followed: Attraction, Courtship, Marriage … even Arguing. The Mingling of Souls will forever change how you view and approach love.
The Meaning of Marriage: Facing the Complexities of Commitment with the Wisdom of God by Tim Keller
Based on the acclaimed sermon series by New York Times bestselling author Timothy Keller, this book shows everyone—Christians, skeptics, singles, longtime married couples, and those about to be engaged—the vision of what marriage should be according to the Bible.
Modern culture would have you believe that everyone has a soul mate; that romance is the most important part of a successful marriage; that your spouse is there to help you realize your potential; that marriage does not mean forever, but merely for now; and that starting over after a divorce is the best solution to seemingly intractable marriage issues. But these modern-day assumptions are wrong. Timothy Keller, with insights from Kathy, his wife of thirty-seven years, shows marriage to be a glorious relationship that is also misunderstood and mysterious. The Meaning of Marriage offers instruction on how to have a successful marriage, and is essential reading for anyone who wants to know God and love more deeply in this life.
The Sacred Search: What If It’s Not about Who You Marry, But Why? by Gary Thomas
What if you stopped looking for a “soul mate” and started looking for a “sole mate”—someone who will live out with you the great purpose of God? What if dating isn’t about finding “the one” but making a wise choice so you can better serve the One who loves you most? What if God didn’t design relationships to make you happy but to make you holy?
Rules for Romance That Can Help You Find the Love of Your Life Between singleness and marriage lies the journey of dating. Want to make your road as smooth as possible? Set and maintain healthy boundaries–boundaries that will help you grow in freedom, honesty, and self-control. If many of your dating experiences have been difficult, Boundaries in Dating could revolutionize the way you handle relationships. Even if you’re doing well, the insights you’ll gain from this much-needed book can help you fine-tune or even completely readjust important areas of your dating life. Written by the authors of the bestselling book Boundaries, Boundaries in Dating is your road map to the kind of enjoyable, rewarding dating that can take you from weekends alone to a lifetime with the soul mate you’ve longed for.
Is This The One?: Insightful Dates for Finding the Love of Your Life by by Steve Arterburn
In Is This the One?, Steve Arterburn―an award-winning author and the founder and chairman of New Life Ministries, the largest faith-based broadcast counseling and treatment ministry―has created a “how to” plan for happier, stronger marriages. He contends that living in a “no regrets” relationship can be as simple following this spiritually solid and personally drawn plan before the first “I do” is even spoken. Host of the number one Christian radio broadcast, “New Life Live!,” Arterburn draws a painfully personal portrait of the devastation divorce has on a family. Rather than aiming at marriages already in jeopardy, Arterburn focuses attention on the beginning of relationships―before the commitment, before the emotional investment, before the children. He prescribes three sets of ten carefully devised dates designed to help couples reveal their true colors and clarify whether or not they are a compatible match. This practical, personal, and positive plan can impact marriages―and ground the skyrocketing divorce rate―as no other book has. Is This the One? is a must read for engaged or dating couples, happy singles, concerned parents, and anyone who wants to make better decisions about who to marry and who to leave behind.
The New Rules for Love, Sex, and Dating
Single? Looking for the “right person”? Thinking that if you met the “right person” everything would turn out “right”? Think again.
In The New Rules For Love, Sex & Dating, Andy Stanley explores the challenges, assumptions, and land mines associated with dating in the twenty-first century. Best of all, he offers the most practical and uncensored advice you will ever hear on this topic.
Not for the faint of heart, The New Rules for Love, Sex & Dating challenges singles to step up and set a new standard for this generation.
Topics Related To Singleness
We have friends that released books that help singles with other parts of their lives – because singles are more than their singleness! Read our interview with them and find a link to purchase their books on topics like finding your identity, pregnancy before marriage and freedom from porn.
The One: An Amazing Love Story Starts With You by Ryan and Amanda Leak.
Refining Identity by Courtney Cohen.
A Bump in Life by Amy Ford.
Eyes of Honor by Jonathan Welton.