Career

So many single mothers I’ve met since I began working with them in 2007 do not believe they have the ability to earn a degree or gain training in a marketable skill. They do not even allow themselves to dream of a better and more prosperous life. The old voices replay demeaning messages from early childhood, some even into their …

As a relatively new leader in singles ministry, I’ve encountered an unwritten rule that goes something like this: Unless you are married (happily or otherwise) and regardless of your spiritual depth, scriptural knowledge or Christian experience, your leadership in ministry will be suspect. Thank you for your willingness, but please get married first, then reapply for the leadership position. And …

Single Matters is one year old today! As the master creator, God loves to birth new things. He calls us to create with Him, and then we get to take part in the joy of watching something new come forth. Single Matters was created and birthed out of an encounter with God. I was the least likely person to create …

I am so grateful my clients give me the privilege of hearing from the Lord in our sessions at my office. I am amazed by the realizations that are uncovered and the truth that is spoken into their individual situations. Sometimes it is too good not to share with others; it becomes an experience not only for that individual, but …

Are you a perfectionist? A perfectionist believes everything should be done perfectly, without error or discrepancy. Recently, I watched an episode of a popular sitcom where the main character, the boss, employed a polite, good-natured young man to do small jobs around the office. Throughout the day, the boss would stop by and inspect the progress of his employee’s projects. …

“…. I was sitting on a porch swing as I recall, legs dangling and drinking my glass of ice cold sweet tea and my Mamaw  (that’s Grandmother for all of you non-southerners) was sitting next to me. She was leaning forward, elbows on her knees, graciously smiling and listening to every word this man had to say, as if he …

Have you noticed how hard it is to stay positive these days? We are bombarded with negativity. You can’t turn on the TV or radio, or pick up a newspaper or magazine without hearing that “the sky is falling.” Bad news abounds. In newspaper terms, “If it bleeds, it leads.” So how do you keep from being drawn to all …

If you are anything like me, the culture of busyness has a siren-like call on your soul. To others, that statement may seem like ridiculous hyperbole. But for those of us who have fallen victim to the addictive qualities of this culture, we succumb to an almost insatiable desire to busy ourselves with activities, to never find ourselves missing that …

Much has been made in the modern evangelical church about the stewardship of finances, and rightfully so.  The collective American psyche has been saturated with greed, overspending and a false sense of self-sufficiency. In response, pastors and theologians have preached multi-month sermon series and written innumerable books in an attempt to revive a godly attitude toward finances. While these interventions …

What do you want to do when you grow up? Are you still asking yourself that question? I am 39 and may have finally figured it out. What about you? Do you still long for the days as a child when you would sit and dream about becoming something great or someone who made a difference in the lives of …