Virginity doesn’t mean what it used to mean. Before the easy access of pornography, virginity often meant that someone was pure in their life. Not so much now. Pornography has so oversexualized our culture that you don’t even have to watch it to know what it looks like. You just have to watch the latest Nicki Minaj music video, which leaves very little to the imagination. In the past, men would flip …
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I recently posted on a thread about online dating, and it started a firestorm. Not against me, because what I said was pretty tame. But the melee of comments about the horrors of online dating went on for days afterward. It was quite telling. As someone who dipped her toes into dating for a second season and was terrified of …
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Everyone wants to be in love. At least we say we do, and usually mean it. But often it’s about what we want love to do for us: make us happy, fulfill us, provide stability. We don’t always realize that love and all its benefits aren’t free; they come with a cost. They require us to change, grow, work and …
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A long time ago in a galaxy far, far away, I had a first love, a first boyfriend. (Man, was that a long time ago!) Do you remember your first love? Wasn’t it magical? I was 19. He’d started liking me late that summer, but wisely and patiently kept his intentions hidden. I had no clue he was testing me by …
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We pray. We hope. We dream. We may spend years waiting. Years longing. Years in frustration over not yet finding what we believe God has for us. Maybe that’s the problem. Most of us don’t make a decision to purposefully find the love of our lives. Most of us have an innate longing that started before we can remember. And …
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I love a good love story. If it’s a true love story, I love it even more! We often say to couples, “Tell me how you two met.” What we are really saying is, “Tell me your love story!” I’ve heard some sweet stories lately. I recently met a couple who knew each other from birth, dated very young and …
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We’ve been doing a series on singleness … and this is the last in the series with … finally .. a dude! I just have more women friends but Nate Stevens, our guest today, is one of my best guy friends. We met a few years ago through another friend and he’s been writing for the magazine I publish, Single …
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Last time, we explored the idea that abstinence preserves the best sexual health experienced by Christian singles. We talked about how sex flourishes shamelessly and unhindered in a committed, biblical marriage where both partners honor Jesus and each other. A few of us have been able to hang on to our virginity, but man, is it tough! We shudder at …
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One very hot summer day in Dallas, Texas, I was set to meet a lovely, ambitious girl for the first time. She was a very busy girl. She was going to school to be a doctor and also balancing a job as a research assistant at a hospital. And that’s where I was picking her up for our lunch date. …
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Being a single Christian in today’s world continues to be increasingly difficult. It hurts my heart every time I hear one of my single friends say, “I’m enjoying being single right now.” If we’re not careful, those words can be decrypted to mean “I’m enjoying my life of selfishness.” Part of the reason many people are choosing a life of singleness …
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