Dating and Engagement

We pray. We hope. We dream. We may spend years waiting. Years longing. Years in frustration over not yet finding what we believe God has for us. Maybe that’s the problem. Most of us don’t make a decision to purposefully find the love of our lives. Most of us have an innate longing that started before we can remember. And …

Being a single Christian in today’s world continues to be increasingly difficult. It hurts my heart every time I hear one of my single friends say, “I’m enjoying being single right now.” If we’re not careful, those words can be decrypted to mean “I’m enjoying my life of selfishness.” Part of the reason many people are choosing a life of singleness …

If you live together with someone before getting married, your chances of divorce increase significantly. Also, almost every problem people think they are avoiding by living together actually increases—abuse, infidelity, breakup, etc. Even though cohabiting with someone might seem like a good idea, it is a practical disaster. The worst thing about cohabitation is the mindset that drives it. To …

Dear Singles, I know. Another letter telling you all the things you should focus on while you’re single. How you should make this your time to serve, and how you should enjoy those years of doing what you want before life gets crazy, and blah blah blah. This isn’t about that. Because the truth about being single is that most …

Remember when you were little and got a scratch, scrape or “boo boo”? Mom or your caregiver came over with the peroxide or rubbing alcohol to clean your wounded area. Then most likely they put a fresh bandage (Band-Aid, for example) on the affected area so you could go back outside and play. Growing up, how many of us thought …

I’m really tired of hearing men’s prayers about their future wives. These are the prayers that, more often than not, sound like a fairy tale. I mean they do pray for the right character traits. They pray for a wife who is a Proverbs 31 woman. They might even go down the list: how she is a hard worker, how …

Some time ago I met a flirtatious guy while traveling.   It’s super-common for people to be flirtatious in airports, or while traveling in general. With the transience inherent in travel, stakes are low and excitement is high. (Reminds me of relationships that form on the courage of drugs and alcohol. Not exactly flattering. Good gracious!) But privacy is important …

One week after Valentine’s Day, I put the final nail into the coffin of a relationship I knew wasn’t going to work: I made our relationship Facebook official. I met Chris on Match.com. After two years of online dating, I had been on what felt like a million first dates. Mr. Wrong, Mr. Uncommitted, Mr. Finding-Himself – I had met …

Ladies. Friends. Sisters. Can I ask you to listen up for a few minutes? There’s a time to be gentle and a time to be firm. I want to level with you right now. Too often friends have told me how a guy has led them on, and I listen as they lay all blame for their broken hearts on …

As a single woman in her 30s over a thousand miles away from her closest natural-born relatives, I sometimes long for connection and intimacy that I don’t always feel in my studio apartment across the river from Manhattan. There may be millions of people here, but sometimes I still feel alone. Once in awhile, I think a boyfriend or husband could …