Singleness

Dateless? Well, isn’t that just special – another article highlighting singleness and at a particularly vulnerable season, no less. Thank you for that. I get it, believe me. That was me for 10 long years. Each holiday season, I fervently asked God to make this the last one without someone “special” in my life. I prayed myself into a tizzy bargaining …

When I was divorced, I was crushed. I lost my sense of self and didn’t fully realize what I was dealing with. It took many years for me to learn what I am sharing here. I had no knowledge or experience in coping with people who are not credible and were not concerned for my well-being. Looking back my weaknesses …

I’m finding it extremely difficult to believe that Christmas is barely a day away from now. December seemed to fly by, and I’m a little nervous about what the new year will bring. Maybe for you, like me, this past year was pretty horrible. My job situation went from bad to worse, and my financial situation followed suit. I was …

“Joy to the World” was playing on the car radio, but I did not feel any joy in my world. It was five days before Christmas — the first Christmas since my divorce and the first one I would spend without my children. They were born like “stair steps” — three babies in 37 months. The older two were in …

In the movie Bridget Jones, Bridget is having dinner with some pretentious married people. One of them says to her, “Bridget, why do you think there are so many people over 30 and single these days?” Bridget looks her straight in the face and says, “Well, I guess it doesn’t hurt that we have scales under our clothes.” We singles often …

After a long day at work, drained from training and the pressures of meeting deadlines, I get into my car, trying to ignore the fact that my oil change is long overdue and surprised that my tires are still hanging in there. After picking up my kids I drive home, going over today’s to-do list in my mind. I’m wondering if …

When I became single for the second time in my life, it wasn’t part of the plan. Life had taken an abrupt turn, and single motherhood became my new reality. I grieved in the beginning. Not only for the losses my family would suffer, but because it didn’t match what I believed God was calling me toward in ministry. You …

You know what kind of story I don’t want to tell about singleness? I don’t want to tell the “I’m dating Jesus and it’s awesome” story. Sometimes Christians, when taking a break from dating or when embracing the spiritual benefits of being single, talk about “dating Jesus.” They might say, “I’m not seeing anyone now. I’m just dating Jesus,” or …

I love Monday nights. And it has nothing to do with football. I’m a facilitator for a sex addiction program called Pure Desires at my church. Every week men come and pour their hearts out as they dive deep into the issues that have manifested the bondage. My heart breaks with them as I hear many stories of abuse and abandonment—all of which …

I’ve been on Facebook since 2007. In those eight years, not once have I ever been “Facebook official.” My relationship status has remained unchanged and that has been a difficult reality to walk through. On an almost daily basis I see others celebrating a new relationship or engagement or marriage. The hundreds of “likes” reaffirm how happy everyone is for the …