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Singleness

In the SINGLENESS category you will find articles that speak to your life as an unmarried person – for those that want to remain single or desire to be married. The topics include: BEING SINGLE, SINGLE AGAIN and SINGLE PARENTING. Never married? You may feel your life is on hold in some areas but there are plenty of areas of your life and character that can be developed. Or you may be learning how to be single again after many years because of divorce or loss of a spouse. Single Matters brings expert advice to your life as a single parent, dealing with grief or questions regarding your “still single” status. See this season through God’s eyes and your hope, joy and strength will be restored.

Are You Overcompensating For Being A Single Parent And Raising A Narcissist?

Mothers love their children above all else. They can, however, confuse love with an adoration that borders on worship. Some parents get carried away and put their kids on a pedestal. When parents treat their kids as if they are more deserving than others, they are overvaluing them and may be nurturing a narcissist. A recent study at Ohio State …

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Going It Alone

Going it alone. What does it really mean? As singles, we get used to doing things alone. And there is a bit of an unspoken rule to not talk about the pain of being single, because “it’s a gift.” Or, we feel shame for not “being content in all circumstances.” But in reality, there are a lot of things that are …

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Passion Isn’t Just For Married People

There is a mistaken idea — even among Christians — that passion and all the energy that goes with it are the unique property of the sexually active (or in the Christian context — the married). For cultural reasons from Sex and the City to Taylor Swift’s unfillable, Blank Space, passion has become synonymous with sex and lust. Sure, passion …

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Grieving The Loss Of Babies I Never Had On Mother’s Day

It was Mother’s Day. My mom lived in another state so I was going to have lunch and celebrate with a family in Texas that had adopted me as a daughter. I loved time with my far away family and my local family. I had two desires ever since I was a little girl. To be a wife and a …

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Throw Away Your List (Or Just Rewrite It)

I have a journal that I started when I was 20 for my husband. I poured my heart out to this journal. What was in my heart at the time was a considerable amount of romantic nonsense. Tucked away in that journal was “the list.” All you females out there, and probably even a lot of the males, you know exactly …

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What Singles Need From Pastors

Don’t worry, it won’t be long before someone snatches you up. Oh, there’s always more fish in the sea. Make sure you don’t let yourself go. God’s being gracious to others. Just keep running after God, look to the side and see who’s running next to you. So many times, pastors’ advice or responses to single adults either in sermons, …

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When All Your Friends Are Married

My dad jokingly reminded me this week that I am no longer a YOUNG adult, but I am now just an adult. We laughed, but my heart sank at the reality and truth of his words. I was an adult, and being an adult was hard. Some friends tried comforting me that some age brackets for young adults go up …

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Response To: Why Pregnancy Before Marriage Isn’t A Sin

I never thought my article “Pregnancy Before Marriage Isn’t A Sin” would go viral. As I write this follow-up, it has been shared over 70,000 times with over 500,000 views. I think the reasons for that are: Pregnancy before marriage is a subject the Church doesn’t address or doesn’t address well. Stating that pregnancy before marriage isn’t a sin challenged …

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Stop Guarding Your Heart!

“Guard your heart” is a popular phrase in Christianese right now. It is most often thrown around when talking about dating, and it’s often accompanied by talks of boundaries. These conversations can and do promote healing and growth in the areas of relationship and connection, but often, we take it a bit too literally. What does it mean to guard …

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How Your Heart Can Hurt And Love At The Same Time

I nearly cried myself to sleep, but I cried myself awake instead. Stretched out on the small square of carpet by the side of my bed, I wept. Why is it that both love and pain seem to coexist so beautifully? I certainly did not have an answer on that particular day, but that question was the start of a reoccurring …

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