Singleness

I love a good love story. If it’s a true love story, I love it even more! We often say to couples, “Tell me how you two met.” What we are really saying is, “Tell me your love story!” I’ve heard some sweet stories lately. I recently met a couple who knew each other from birth, dated very young and …

Walking into the party by myself. No hand to hold. Feeling like everyone is staring at me. Trying to find someone I know to talk to. Spending the holidays alone can be tough. Others may feel sorry for you or think something is wrong with you. It can be awkward and uncomfortable. I spent many years alone and single at …

Every once in a while, I run into a Christian single who is chronically drab, dour or otherwise non-celebratory. Whether because of anger over being single, religious doctrine, personality, rebellion against commercialism and snarled traffic, or bad experiences with other humans (such as bad marriages), they’ve developed the attitude that there is really nothing special to celebrate. The current holiday …

Dear Christmas, I am writing this letter to tell you how I feel. I have been bottling up these emotions for most of my adult life. It is time to show up and tell my truth to you. To put it bluntly: I love you and I hate you. The early years with you were so memorable. We would get …

Hey, single gals. ‘Tis the season for “Jingle Bells” and “Deck the Halls.” It’s a season full of laughter and fun, but I know the holidays can be tough sometimes too. There are so many parties to go to and dinners to get through. A lot of people are asking how your dating life is going or giving you unwanted …

There was a time in my life when I felt utterly alone. It was my first year of graduate school, and I was living off-campus in my own apartment. I was no longer surrounded by the hustle and bustle of college life. Though I had three roommates, we were each wrapped up in doing our own things, and our lives …

Sometimes love simply doesn’t go as planned. If you’re like me, you’ve watched enough movies and every romantic comedy known to mankind, and at some point you subliminally acquired the notion that love is your right, and that without it you won’t be happy. Unfortunately, most people’s love lives don’t follow a Hollywood script. Some people never find the big …

“Will I get married, Siri?” I was in my mid-30s, still waiting for my man to materialize. College and grad school? Check. God, apparently, was in no hurry to marry me off, so more check marks followed: finishing postdoc; getting licensed; starting my practice. Meanwhile, grad school friends had taken the same amount of time not just to get their …

Being a single mom is often associated with images of a super mom wearing a super hero cape, or words that describe someone who is tough and independent. While I can mostly agree with those things, I also know that as a single mom myself, I have had my fair share of moments that I refer to as “weak.” Recently, …

I recently moved from the West Coast of the U.S. to the East Coast. There is a very different culture and mindset here, and I am still adjusting to the changes. One thing I did not expect was to see that churches in our area do not have singles groups! I am puzzled. Flabbergasted. Singles comprise nearly half the population …