Singleness

Friday night, I went to a coffee shop to watch my lovely friend Julie perform. She is a very talented singer, and every time she plays I jump at the chance to go listen to her sing. I’ve listened to her many times before, but this night she sang songs I have never heard before. In the middle of singing her heart …

I have a friend who is divorced. In this day and age, we all do. By the time you get to my age (mid 40’s), you’ve seen way too many crumbling marriages, destroyed relationships and personal ugliness. Although it is sad to watch and makes me angry at the enemy for destroying a covenant that God loves, I’m more grieved …

Love seats in furniture outlets, double occupancy rooms in hotels and tables for two at restaurants are but a few examples of the constants in a couples-oriented world. As a single person, you are reminded always that you are missing something or someone if you don’t fit into an equation that is divisible by two. As a result, many singles …

Whether or not you are married, you are more than likely brainwashed—at least in the area of dating and romance. If you married younger than most of your peers, married the first person you dated, or are so single that it’s a sore subject, you probably view love, dating, marriage and sex through a warped, equation-driven point of view. People …

That day, the sting of still-single-at-forty was too fresh. Although I was excited about the Christian writers’ conference I was attending, and I carried around a proposal for my book on prolonged singleness, I could not ignore the disappointment that had dominated my heart since that recent landmark birthday. When it was my turn to introduce myself to the group, …

Since the launch of TrueLoveDates.com at the end of March, I’ve had the honor and privilege of hearing from hundreds of men and women across our country and world, with messages of gratitude, relationship questions and stories of hope and healing. While I personally read every single email and do my best to respond to each one, there are times that the …

A few days ago, everything worked out perfectly enough for me to get lost in Central Park for three hours. The weather simply couldn’t have been more dreamy, and the sky was a drinkable shade of blue, with marshmallow clouds just waiting to turn into whatever my imagination could drum up. I had responsibly taken my computer into the city …

You are beautiful. There are few things more powerful than beauty. Lust is such a poor, thin response to it. Our culture allows lust to define beauty, but it can’t. Lust doesn’t tell us anything about the one seen. It only tells us about the one who looks, and how they look, and why. You are beautiful. Perhaps men have …

“If there ever comes a day when we can’t be together, keep me in your heart. I’ll stay there forever.” -Winnie the Pooh Children of divorcing (and divorced) parents must learn to cope with separations from people they love more quickly than children from intact families. Visitation schedules, no matter how thoughtfully or cooperatively constructed, just are not the same …

Unless you’ve been living under a rock, then you’ve probably heard that “Star Wars” has exchanged hands, and a new generation will experience the awesomeness of the ultimate portrayal of the battle between good and evil.  Yes, I’m geeking out! But you’re probably wondering what in the world, or for that matter the universe, does “Star Wars” have to do …