Singleness

Hey, dude. I’m not sure if I’ve told you this lately, but thank you. In a world that is obsessed with sex, lust and “send nudes,” you’re living your life to a higher standard. When other guys are looking for hook-ups and opportunities for a night of Netflix and chill, you’re not. I can’t imagine the type of daily struggle …

Have you ever felt pressured to improve who you are to get what you want? Of course you have; we all have. In fact, that is one of the most dangerous thoughts in singleness: I am alone because there is something wrong with me. If you are a female and over a certain age – 12 – you will inevitably …

“How was it?” “I survived.” That’s been a fairly common conversation the past few weeks. A friend will check in to see how work or an event was, and my response has remained the same. “Rats survive, Holly. People gotta live.” Those were the first words I read this morning in an email from a friend. His simple quip jolted …

It’s almost Valentine’s Day—again. Reminders are everywhere: People kissing in public more often than usual. Co-workers gushing about the surprise dates their spouses are planning. Facebook is laden with people professing undying love for their new girlfriend, their husband of 20 years, or even their favorite pet! (I wonder if these people think they’re off the Valentine’s Day hook because of a post that took them 35 seconds …

Valentine’s Day is a thorn in the side of single people. Christmas decorations and gift wrap aren’t even marked for clearance before the stores start bringing in the boxes of Valentines, specialty chocolates and all things red and romantic. As single people, we just survived two major holidays with families and friends asking us why we are still single, only …

I have a lot of experience with what it’s like to be a Christian single gal living in the millennial age. Some holidays can drive a single woman in her late 30s to scream at Valentine’s Day. Another pass at Christmas, another New Year and, oh-no-Heaven-forbid, another Valentine’s Day … still unmarried and single. Should I hurry up and jump online to meet …

You know what really grinds my gears? When people try to deflate someone else’s dreams. This year I have to ask: Am I the only one who enjoys Valentine’s Day? I am a romantic, though at some points in my life it was hard to admit. But now I don’t find anything wrong with celebrating love. Are you one of those …

How many of us consider ourselves to be role models? I usually don’t think of myself that way until I’m reminded by people, from family to strangers via social media, that what I share in my writings are good enough for them to read — and I pray — learn from. To be honest, there are some hard days for …

The shame that came with getting divorced got so bad that I hid it from new people I met. I moved from Chicagoland to Texas for a new job. I didn’t know a single soul. I figured this was my chance to get a fresh start. When people asked me if I’d been married before I changed the subject, pretended …