Hey, single gals. I’m back with another “For My Single Girls” posts, and I couldn’t be more excited. I’m going to be honest and tell you that I’m entering into a season where I have no choice but to trust Jesus with everything. One where I don’t know where the money is going to come from or how it’s all going to work. It’s tough and feels uncertain; however, I am not entering this season unprepared. I have gone through this before and definitely gained tools then that I know I will need now. I want to encourage you that you are not alone. I made a list of some things to encourage myself with in this season, and I pray it encourages you as well.
For My Single Girls Facing the Unknown:
1. Seek Jesus. Not just reading your Bible and checking off your Bible-reading plan. Ask Jesus to come alive to you. Spending time at His feet like Mary did is what it’s all about. That’s where you learn what it means to abide with Him. That’s where the peace that surpasses all understanding and the joy that is your strength comes from. Let Jesus hug you. His hugs are the best.
2. Take time to be by yourself and do something you love. Take a day trip to the beach or a long walk downtown. Do something to take care of you.
3. Do brain dumps often. A brain dump is pretty much where you get a pen and paper and just write down all the stuff on your mind. Your to-do lists, your worries, your ideas, the things overwhelming you, whatever it may be. Write it down and clear your head. I even like to do this before I have devotional time with the Lord so that I go in without distraction.
4. Treat yourself to a good cup of coffee or tea once in a while. Maybe even take the time to sit outside and drink it nice and slow in the breeze.
5. Write down the verses that are speaking to your heart in this season and post them up where you can see them. Say them every day and, before you know it, you’ll have them memorized. Then anytime the enemy tries to get you down, you can punch Him in the face with the Word of God.
6. Dance it out. I got that from “Grey’s Anatomy” years ago, but I promise it works! Pump up the music and dance all around, not caring about anything in that moment. Also, belting it out is pretty great too. Turn on your favorite song and sing it at the top of your lungs, not caring if you sound good or not. Just do it.
7. Confess God’s truth. Instead of saying, “I don’t know how this is going to work out …” say, “God, You’ve got this. I CHOOSE TO TRUST YOU.”
8. Talk to Jesus about your worries before you talk to other people. I heard someone say once, “Go to the throne before the phone!” We are really good at complaining and freaking out to others when really, we need to go to Jesus. Also, don’t just come to Him with your complaint list. Take time EVERY DAY to thank Him for how awesome He is.
9. Don’t isolate yourself. I am a natural introvert, so I get needing alone time. It is crucial for our sanity. But we also need people. We were made for community. We need people pouring into our lives, loving us and cheering us on. Get yourself some friends like that.
10. Let people bless you. I used to feel so bad when someone wanted to treat me to coffee or something, but someone told me once that by denying them, you are denying their blessing and the seed they want to sow into you. So now when someone offers to treat me, I thank them and tell them what a blessing they are to me.
11. Speaking of blessing … Bless people abundantly. Give and give and give some more. If you have a need, sow a seed. I’m not talking about tithing, which is what you need to do with your first 10 percent. When you’re in need financially, sow into other people. It is crazy what God does with that.
12. Whenever you start to feel doubt, discouragement, fear or unbelief begin to creep in and try to attach itself to you, recognize it and tell it to go. “We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive EVERY thought to make it obedient to Christ” (2 Corinthians 10:5). Replace it with a worship song or a verse that’s encouraged you and keep at it.
13. BLAST worship music so loud that the enemy has to be silent. He hates when we praise Jesus.
14. Try to save money in every area you can. Stop eating out so much. Actually use the groceries you buy. Cut down on your spending in all the areas you can. Set aside your tithe, the money you need for bills and rent money. Budget out the rest appropriately. There are even some apps to help you do this. I like Mint. Also, use rebate apps like Ibotta and Receipt Hog to get money back on your purchases. Every little bit adds up.
– Be daring.
– Walk in freedom.
– Laugh out loud.
– Dream really big.
– Live fully alive.
– Make your own list of things.
Beloved, this is your season to shine bright. The Lord has called you for such a time as this. Lean against His heart and just watch what He’ll do. I for one am PUMPED for you!