Tag Archives: Being Single

I’m finding it extremely difficult to believe that Christmas is barely a day away from now. December seemed to fly by, and I’m a little nervous about what the new year will bring. Maybe for you, like me, this past year was pretty horrible. My job situation went from bad to worse, and my financial situation followed suit. I was …

In the movie Bridget Jones, Bridget is having dinner with some pretentious married people. One of them says to her, “Bridget, why do you think there are so many people over 30 and single these days?” Bridget looks her straight in the face and says, “Well, I guess it doesn’t hurt that we have scales under our clothes.” We singles often …

It’s cliché for a reason. At some point in our lives we’ve all experienced the inexplicable draw to someone who is so completely different from us that we begin to believe they actually “complete” the missing parts we see in ourselves. Yes, it’s wonderful to meet someone who has strengths different from our own, or interests that make us get out there and explore …

Lina Abujamra is the author of “Thrive: The Single Life As God Intended,” which is a book that encourages singles to not be held back by their singleness, but to thrive where God has them. In her chapter “Holy Rollers and the Church Ladies: Embracing Holiness as a Lifestyle,” Lina asks a question that everyone (single or not) should ask themselves: …

When I became single for the second time in my life, it wasn’t part of the plan. Life had taken an abrupt turn, and single motherhood became my new reality. I grieved in the beginning. Not only for the losses my family would suffer, but because it didn’t match what I believed God was calling me toward in ministry. You …

You know what kind of story I don’t want to tell about singleness? I don’t want to tell the “I’m dating Jesus and it’s awesome” story. Sometimes Christians, when taking a break from dating or when embracing the spiritual benefits of being single, talk about “dating Jesus.” They might say, “I’m not seeing anyone now. I’m just dating Jesus,” or …

I love Monday nights. And it has nothing to do with football. I’m a facilitator for a sex addiction program called Pure Desires at my church. Every week men come and pour their hearts out as they dive deep into the issues that have manifested the bondage. My heart breaks with them as I hear many stories of abuse and abandonment—all of which …

I’ve been on Facebook since 2007. In those eight years, not once have I ever been “Facebook official.” My relationship status has remained unchanged and that has been a difficult reality to walk through. On an almost daily basis I see others celebrating a new relationship or engagement or marriage. The hundreds of “likes” reaffirm how happy everyone is for the …

“Instead of viewing aloneness as a shameful condition to cure, think of it as one of freedom and opportunity.” – Lauren Mackler, Soulmate Being alone is not the same as being lonely. Though some resist being alone, it doesn’t have to be that way. Solitude can prove to be valuable time for personal growth. I was single with three children …

I’m a married man. What qualifies me to say anything about singleness? I mean, I got married right out of college when I was 21. I didn’t have to struggle through any time as a single adult. So why should you listen to me? We spoiled married people love to offer trite advice to you Christian singles in our churches, like, “You are so lucky, …