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Why I Won’t Slow Down For A Relationship

People like to give well-meaning advice to single people. They think their nugget of wisdom is going to be THE nugget of wisdom that gets you a mate. There’s this idea that if you try this thing or that thing, that all of a sudden (like a heavenly magical trick) the man or woman of your dreams is going to …

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Single Parents: There Is Life Beyond Your Loss

The year after my marriage fell apart was hands down the worst of my life. Most days were a blur as I stumbled through them trying to contain my emotions and take care of my children. It was the pinnacle to a life full of loss that seemed unbelievable, and undeserved, and just … unfair. It left me shaken, literally, …

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The Gift Of Singleness Explained

In my single years, Sunday mornings in Church used to feel unbearable. At the beginning of the service, well-meaning couples would greet me with phrases like, “Sooo, did you find a woman yet?” or “Hey, did you meet Jade yet? She’s really cute. You two should go out!” Aside of the fact that Jade probably had her eye on someone …

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Going It Alone

Going it alone. What does it really mean? As singles, we get used to doing things alone. And there is a bit of an unspoken rule to not talk about the pain of being single, because “it’s a gift.” Or, we feel shame for not “being content in all circumstances.” But in reality, there are a lot of things that are …

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Passion Isn’t Just For Married People

There is a mistaken idea — even among Christians — that passion and all the energy that goes with it are the unique property of the sexually active (or in the Christian context — the married). For cultural reasons from Sex and the City to Taylor Swift’s unfillable, Blank Space, passion has become synonymous with sex and lust. Sure, passion …

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The Last Time I Hooked Up

The last time I thought about hooking up was yesterday. I sometimes go through these seasons where I feel my flesh trying to get the best of me. It’s those days that “Submit to God, resist the devil and he will flee” just doesn’t seem real. I kept thinking of whom I could contact. My old stopping ground was Craigslist, …

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Grieving The Loss Of Babies I Never Had On Mother’s Day

It was Mother’s Day. My mom lived in another state so I was going to have lunch and celebrate with a family in Texas that had adopted me as a daughter. I loved time with my far away family and my local family. I had two desires ever since I was a little girl. To be a wife and a …

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Interview: Author Kate Hurley “Cupid Is A Procrastinator”

One of our very own Single Matters writers, Kate Hurley, wrote a book titled Cupid Is a Procrastinator: Making Sense of the Unexpected Single Life. Kate discusses singleness honestly and isn’t afraid to come right out and say it: “Singleness sucks!” Can we get an amen? Yet, Kate has learned and experienced some beautiful lessons concerning the character of God and …

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Throw Away Your List (Or Just Rewrite It)

I have a journal that I started when I was 20 for my husband. I poured my heart out to this journal. What was in my heart at the time was a considerable amount of romantic nonsense. Tucked away in that journal was “the list.” All you females out there, and probably even a lot of the males, you know exactly …

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I’m Not Guarding Your Heart — I’m Guarding Mine

I had been dating this woman for a couple of months. It was really good getting to know each other. We went on several dates, out for coffee, running, to the fair … it was nice. I was proud of myself because in the past, my boundaries had not been the greatest. I did a very good job at guarding …

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