Tag Archives: Being Single

You had it all planned out. You’d go to college, where there are thousands of singles. You’d lock eyes with someone in Bible study. You’d start studying together. You’d start dating. You’d graduate together. You’d get engaged at 23. Married at 24. First kid at 26. You’d be the cool younger parents. It would be great. Back to reality. You’re …

Have you ever been in a long line at the store and stuck by a complainer? You know, the lady with her nose up in the air, tapping her foot (not even in rhythm), checking her watch every five seconds while complaining (to whoever will listen) about how they need more lines open and she doesn’t have time to stand …

My heart was in agony. I couldn’t handle the unknown any longer. I needed rest. So I asked God a simple question: “Yes or no?” I was actually in a healing and encouraging season of life, after being in ‘deep valley’ and ‘refining fire’ seasons. At that point, I had been single again for 7 years. My first husband left …

“I’ve got you.” Three words that changed my life. During a season of intense difficulty, I found myself waking up several times a night, fear and panic hijacking any semblance of sleep I may otherwise have experienced. I would wake up with a start, eyes bulging open like a shocked emoji, heart racing and terror overwhelming any remnant of peace …

During my years of prolonged singleness, I definitely experienced discouragement. In addition to providing my amazing single friends, God also ministered encouragement through certain married friends who communicated sensitivity, love, and respect with their words and actions. In light of my own experience, I recently compiled a mental list of ways married couples can bless their single friends. I’m not …

Dear Singles, I know. Another letter telling you all the things you should focus on while you’re single. How you should make this your time to serve, and how you should enjoy those years of doing what you want before life gets crazy, and blah blah blah. This isn’t about that. Because the truth about being single is that most …

I am introvert. I don’t like small talk or talking to a lot of people at a party. I’d rather have a deep conversation with a few people. When I need to recharge, I hide from everyone. Ah … alone time. But I also am very relational. I love people. I like helping people, having folks over for dinner, going …

If you are a white person, have you ever thought about braiding a black child’s hair? How about the initial surprise when people realize that this brown boy’s mom is white? Are you OK as a black female bringing a white man to the house? Are you OK with the way people will look and stare or comment? I’m a …

Destiny is a funny thing. We all want to believe it exists in us, but it feels mystical and elusive. It conjures up feelings of great longing and hopeless impossibility. But there is destiny in you. God has an inevitable, wonderful future designed for you. Wrap your brain around it. Let it sink in so that even your subconscious knows …

Summertime is officially here. It’s time for lazy afternoons at the beach, sipping lemonade, taking random naps on the weekend and absorbing the sunshine before the winter sets in again. With this carefree attitude, why should one have goals and boundaries? Whenever I go on vacation, I set goals. For example, I want to take a nap every day, I …