Tag Archives: Being Single

I recently saw pictures of what is called the “Scariest Trail in the World” on a mountain in China. It has since been added to my bucket list. As I scrolled through the pictures, the first part of the journey began with a steep climb up the “Heavenly Stairs” that led to narrow rudimentary planks attached to sheer rock cliffs, …

I’m sure we’ve all asked ourselves this question: Am I just like my father?  But the real question is: Do we really want to know the answer? With the passing of my 35th birthday this year, I’ve found myself reflecting back over the last several decades, the laughter and tears and the lessons I’ve learned. But I hit an interesting …

This weekend a girlfriend of mine asked, “Would you date a man if he had all the emotional qualities you are looking for but wasn’t your physical preference?” Without hesitation, I answered “Absolutely.” Yes, deep down every girl desires a man whose gene pool will produce beautiful children the rest of the world will “oooh” and “aaah” over, but that …

I love my grandmother, and I love the British actress Judi Dench. So when Grandma mentioned her desire to see the dame’s new movie, Philomena, I gladly accompanied her to the theater. After the movie, my Catholic grandmother left the theater very disturbed by the story. I did as well. But for different reasons. You see, the movie takes us …

It was spring of my senior year in college. My friend Phil and I decided to go to our first ever “singles Bible study.” There was one in our city that was making all kinds of buzz. Thousands were showing up. “The teaching and music are amazing” we were hearing everywhere. We decided to give it a shot. What we …

“Illusions are dangerous people. They have no flaws.” – Irene, Sabrina (1995) I’ve read most everything that Jane Austen has written. I read her work in my teens, in my 20s, and even though I’ll only be tiptoeing into my 30s this year, it’s highly probable that I’ll read those classics again. Her wit, her social commentary and her ability …

Have you ever wanted something so bad that your body ached in anticipation? You may have wanted a new love, that great new career or the fulfillment of your dreams. Even worse, have you desired something so dearly and believed you would get it, only to find that it was snatched away from you at the last minute? This is …

Recently, as I was meeting with another favorite client (can you tell I have many?), I had another revelation for the single people of the world. This revelation can actually be applied to many situations and circumstances, but is very fitting when applied to relationships. The chat I was having with this client centered on a recent relationship prospect and …

Let me clear the air about where I am in life. I am a single male. I recently passed the dreaded precipice of 40.  I live in Asia and have lived here for most of the last 12 years. My work takes me back to America a few times a year, but my adult life has largely been invested in …