Those of you who have been single for a while now: have you heard any of these lovely statements or questions from well-meaning family members or acquaintances (because your single friends know better)? “That last one was really nice. Why did you let them get away?” “Don’t you think your standards are too high?” “I think you expect too much …
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I’m So Sorry You’re Not Married
I’m seeing a trend in today’s conservative churches concerning people who are struggling with their singleness — mostly women. Although men have the advantage since they are the pursuers, it also applies to them. The trend is people telling women that God may not have someone for them. I understand the heart behind that. Singleness is a foreign concept to married …
Read More »3 Tips For Single Dads On Father’s Day
As I sit here writing this, it’s Mother’s Day morning. In the month of June, we celebrate fathers. This time of year, I can’t help but reflect on the journey of single parenting. Deuteronomy 11:18-20 (MSG) is one of my favorite parenting scriptures: Place these words on your hearts. Get them deep inside you. Tie them on your hands and …
Read More »You Can Be Too Intense But You Can Never Be Too Intentional In Dating
I recently read an article concerning being “too” intentional when dating. I was little caught off-guard by the title. I was wondering if the writer was going to go with that train of thought or just go somewhere else with it. I have tried to use somewhat catchy titles in posts to get someone’s attention. It’s part of being a …
Read More »When You Feel Alone
My foot was tap dancing as I waited for someone to answer the phone. I knew asking for a refund for a concert ticket was a long shot, but since I found out I’d have to go by myself, I just didn’t want to go anymore . Finally, a lady answered, asking how she could assist me. I told her …
Read More »A Letter To My Single (Girl) Friends
Hey, Girlie! Singleness is a topic we’ve discussed numerous times. Whether it’s been over coffee at the local coffee spot or while sitting on your couch. We’ve lamented or ranted or complained … or cried. I’ve seen your tears and your struggles, and I’ve seen your strength and resilience too. God made women both delicate and strong, and that is …
Read More »Why The Prejudice Against Singles Is Real
“Most people don’t know they have prejudices until they are forced to celebrate what they are prejudiced against.” I wrote that thought this morning after listening to a call-in radio show talking about singles and the church. I had been interviewed by them a few weeks prior and was now at home listening to the follow-up conversation live on-air. One …
Read More »When The Journey To Your Dream Is Taking Too Long
I hope you have a dream. I hope there is somewhere amazing you long to be or some important thing you wish to accomplish. We need that in this life. Dreaming is good for soul and spirit. I believe God gives us all dreams. These dreams, promises, visions are often long in coming. Sometimes we find ourselves trudging through the …
Read More »Are You Missing The Relationship Right In Front Of You?
Imagine you are underwater on a treasure hunt for diamonds. (Because that’s an everyday occurrence to which we can all relate …) Anyway – imagine you are under there enjoying yourself, seeking treasure, avoiding sharks and praying your oxygen tank lasts. Silently swimming along, you high-five the sea turtles and give a thumbs-up to Nemo while continuing to look left …
Read More »Do You Want To Be Married?
“Do you want to be married?” If you have been single long enough, you have heard this question many times. Whether you are at a family reunion, meeting a new neighbor, sitting beside someone at church, changing jobs or attending any singles function, the question comes up. Before I can give them one of my much-thought-out sarcastic answers, they follow …
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