Some time ago I met a flirtatious guy while traveling. It’s super-common for people to be flirtatious in airports, or while traveling in general. With the transience inherent in travel, stakes are low and excitement is high. (Reminds me of relationships that form on the courage of drugs and alcohol. Not exactly flattering. Good gracious!) But privacy is important …
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Saying No To Mr. 90% Right
One week after Valentine’s Day, I put the final nail into the coffin of a relationship I knew wasn’t going to work: I made our relationship Facebook official. I met Chris on Match.com. After two years of online dating, I had been on what felt like a million first dates. Mr. Wrong, Mr. Uncommitted, Mr. Finding-Himself – I had met …
Read More »Interview: Pray For A Mate™ With Kris Swiatocho
My good friend and frequent contributor to Single Matters, Kris Swiatocho, is the president and director of the The Singles Network and From His Hands Ministries. Kris has served in ministry in various capacities for the last 25 years. An accomplished trainer and mentor, Kris has a heart to reach and grow leaders so they will in turn reach and grow others. …
Read More »Why We Need To Trust The Process In Our Singleness
How many of us consider ourselves to be role models? I usually don’t think of myself that way until I’m reminded by people, from family to strangers via social media, that what I share in my writings are good enough for them to read — and I pray — learn from. To be honest, there are some hard days for …
Read More »Tips For The Perfect Dating Profile
Recently, I did something I said I’d never do again. I signed up for a free trial on a Christian dating website. In a moment of weakness, I clicked “sign-up” and spent the next hour crafting the most honest profile I could. I used my most recent pictures and did my best to represent my personality correctly—one part sass, one …
Read More »For My Single Girls This New Year
Goodbye, 2016! Oh my, this year was a crazy one for me, but I can say with all honesty that it was the best one yet. I learned a lot. I was stretched a lot. And my faith is stronger than yesterday for sure. I am really excited for this new year, and I fully believe it is going to …
Read More »4 ‘Thoughts’ Singles Fight During The Holiday Season
As the holiday season approaches, so do the announcements of engagements, wedding invitations and babies that flood our social media timelines and mailboxes. Similar to wedding season, the holidays from Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Years can take a toll on a single person mentally and spiritually. Even the steadfast can sometimes face several kinds of thoughts that may cause them …
Read More »God, Why Am I Still Single?
Is there anything I’m not doing that I should be doing? I was speaking to my pastor several years ago about being in my early 40s, single, with no prospects and no understanding of the “why behind the what.” For the life of me, I couldn’t figure out why an attractive, godly, fun, strong, intelligent, fit and fabulous human being …
Read More »The 24 (Not So) Serious Prayers Of A Single Woman
I’ve been praying for my future husband probably as long as I’ve been able to speak. That’s what a good Proverbs 31 woman does, right? Usually, it’s my final prayer before drifting off to sleep at night, which may be why I have this recurring dream of marrying Tim Tebow. My prayers may have included the following things and in no …
Read More »Overcoming Loneliness With The Power Of Hope
Years ago I drove three hours across Iowa from Des Moines through Cedar Falls to the tiny little town of Dyersville, just a few miles off of Highway 20. I rolled down my window and I could hear its music: the sound of gravel crunching beneath my tires and the wind rustling through the corn. Though I’d never been there …
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