Have you been in a bad relationship? I, like many women (and some men) I’ve known, have experienced trauma from being abused. Whether it was physical, psychological and/or sexual abuse by someone you trusted — who was supposed to love and care for you — or a total stranger, abuse damages your soul. It has left many of us fearful …
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What We Can Learn From Separation
Come out from them and be separate, says the Lord. Touch no unclean thing, and I will receive you. (2 Corinthians 6:17) Most often, separation doesn’t feel good. We get comfortable in our relationships, habits and preferences — sometimes even when they may be harmful, or at the very least, not beneficial. We often struggle with removing what’s detrimental to …
Read More »Three Steps To Healing From Your Past And Being Open To Love Again
I never wanted to get married again. At least that’s what I told myself. Past hurts were still piercing my heart. One unhealthy relationship after another, a bad marriage and then a divorce had me looking for love in all the wrong places. I felt like a failure. This wasn’t how it was supposed to be. After the mess I’d …
Read More »When You’re Tired Of Being The Strong Single Mom
Being a single mom is often associated with images of a super mom wearing a super hero cape, or words that describe someone who is tough and independent. While I can mostly agree with those things, I also know that as a single mom myself, I have had my fair share of moments that I refer to as “weak.” Recently, …
Read More »What Does It Look Like To Wait For A Mate?
My heart was in agony. I couldn’t handle the unknown any longer. I needed rest. So I asked God a simple question: “Yes or no?” I was actually in a healing and encouraging season of life, after being in ‘deep valley’ and ‘refining fire’ seasons. At that point, I had been single again for 7 years. My first husband left …
Read More »I Never Thought I’d Get Divorced
Divorced. Single again. Now what? Being in a broken and abusive marriage was hard. Coming out of it was even harder. I was lonely, sad, depressed, angry and hurt. My dreams had been crushed. The life I thought I was going to have no longer was. I had to move back in with my parents and carried a huge amount …
Read More »Why The Church Can’t Heal Your Broken Heart
I’d been out of the church I loved for nearly a year. I was so hurt by what had happened after my divorce. So angry at how I’d been treated. I couldn’t bear to walk through the doors at times. But over that time, as I lashed out at God and everyone around me for what I was feeling, I …
Read More »Why Divorced People Struggle With The Church
Recently, another mom reached out to me with a story I’ve heard way too often. Nothing lights me on fire more than hearing about a struggling single parent making their way to church, only to get lectured throughout the service about divorce. Personally, it’s happened to me more times than I can count. And many of those occurred before I became …
Read More »I Don’t Think I Can Handle Another Heartbreak
Ever had enough of heartbreak? Ever had enough of the pain that comes with it? The pain that comes with another failed relationship is something I don’t care to experience again. I’ve had three relationships in my 34 years here on this earth. Each of them has been different. Each of them have been equally painful. My last relationship was the …
Read More »Dating The Divorced: The One Question You Need To Ask
It’s interesting when you’re single for the second round. You get to hear a lot of life stories, ponder a lot of life lessons, and get insight into a lot of life’s mishaps in different marriages. Because when you’ve been married and then lost that relationship, others who have done the same feel free to share their stories. In the …
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