The autumn leaves are turning beautiful colors as they float to the ground. The days are getting cooler and shorter. And the winter holidays are on their way to your singleness. <insert sigh> Here it comes again, strutting into your life every fall like clockwork, try as you might to avoid or ignore it … that darned cuffing season. We …
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When You Feel Alone
My foot was tap dancing as I waited for someone to answer the phone. I knew asking for a refund for a concert ticket was a long shot, but since I found out I’d have to go by myself, I just didn’t want to go anymore . Finally, a lady answered, asking how she could assist me. I told her …
Read More »A Letter To My Single (Girl) Friends
Hey, Girlie! Singleness is a topic we’ve discussed numerous times. Whether it’s been over coffee at the local coffee spot or while sitting on your couch. We’ve lamented or ranted or complained … or cried. I’ve seen your tears and your struggles, and I’ve seen your strength and resilience too. God made women both delicate and strong, and that is …
Read More »Are You Just Surviving And Not Thriving?
“How was it?” “I survived.” That’s been a fairly common conversation the past few weeks. A friend will check in to see how work or an event was, and my response has remained the same. “Rats survive, Holly. People gotta live.” Those were the first words I read this morning in an email from a friend. His simple quip jolted …
Read More »Jesus, Single Like Me
Growing up, I had a reputation for being very independent. Because my birth father was rarely at home, it felt like I was raised by a single mother. Often she would rely on me to help her take care of my younger siblings. From changing diapers to helping with dinner to babysitting, I took on a lot of responsibility. This …
Read More »How I Found My Knight In Shining Armor
Have you ever wondered why, as women, we love fairy tales? Or why we long for a knight in shining armor of our own? Romance movies, novels and songs all make a ton of money because of this deep longing that each girl has within herself. Some women may have turned it off at a certain age because they felt …
Read More »Why You’re Settling For The Wrong Person (And What To Do About It)
It was our second date. And quite honestly, one date too many. As I sat across from this man I’d known only a couple of weeks, a million reasons crossed my mind as to why I shouldn’t be there. I’d just witnessed him making fun of someone. He talked non-stop about the other women he’d recently dated. He was arrogant. …
Read More »When You Are Lonely
I recently moved into a new apartment, and it’s the first time since college that I’ve lived completely alone. Outwardly, finances and my extraverted, never-ending need for community justified roommates, but I suspect there was always a part of me that also chose roommates out of fear. That is, the fear of being alone. Nevertheless, for four months now, I …
Read More »Are You In The Lonely Hearts Club Too?
I stood at my car in the pouring rain, luggage in hand, watching the bus drive away when it hit me hard. It was deep, it was overtaking, it was everything at once. “I am completely alone here.” I recently moved from Maryland to Florida. It was a complete God thing and a very exciting adventure (another story for another …
Read More »Are You Lonely Or Just Alone?
“Instead of viewing aloneness as a shameful condition to cure, think of it as one of freedom and opportunity.” – Lauren Mackler, Soulmate Being alone is not the same as being lonely. Though some resist being alone, it doesn’t have to be that way. Solitude can prove to be valuable time for personal growth. I was single with three children …
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