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My Gift Of Singleness

I love Monday nights. And it has nothing to do with football. I’m a facilitator for a sex addiction program called Pure Desires at my church. Every week men come and pour their hearts out as they dive deep into the issues that have manifested the bondage. My heart breaks with them as I hear many stories of abuse and abandonment—all of which …

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Confessions Of A 30(ish)-Year-Old Virgin

  If you’re like me and 30-plus years old, you may remember the 1999 Drew Barrymore movie “Never Been Kissed.” For those who have never seen it, here’s a synopsis. Josie Geller (Drew) aka “Josie Grossie” by her former high-school classmates, is a newspaper copyeditor who’s desperate to move up to reporter. She finally gets the opportunity to show her skills when her boss assigns …

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Passion Isn’t Just For Married People

There is a mistaken idea — even among Christians — that passion and all the energy that goes with it are the unique property of the sexually active (or in the Christian context — the married). For cultural reasons from Sex and the City to Taylor Swift’s unfillable, Blank Space, passion has become synonymous with sex and lust. Sure, passion …

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The Last Time I Hooked Up

The last time I thought about hooking up was yesterday. I sometimes go through these seasons where I feel my flesh trying to get the best of me. It’s those days that “Submit to God, resist the devil and he will flee” just doesn’t seem real. I kept thinking of whom I could contact. My old stopping ground was Craigslist, …

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Why Waiting Is Harder Than Ever

Why Waiting is Harder Than Ever

Type “sex and the single Christian” into your preferred bookseller’s search engine, and you’ll find a plethora of titles encouraging everything from chastity to restraint, from celibacy to True Love Waits and the latest Rebecca St. James album. Well-meaning pastors wade in to the topic, encouraging the unmarried to exercise just a little more self-control. But what’s missing from most …

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The Woman Of My Dreams Wasn’t My Soul Mate

I think Disney trains us very young to look and find our soul mate. In each fairytale, there’s a handsome prince, a beautiful princess, a curse in the land, a rescue, a first kiss, and they live happily ever after. But I think we keep forgetting that these are fairytales. Fiction. Not true. Unrealistic. As a boy I imagined an …

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I Helped Someone Cheat

It was the weekend of August 1st. I was in New Orleans for a wedding. Traveling alone was always a strong temptation. New city. New opportunities. I found myself in my hotel room in a very familiar situation but with a different twist. See, I was a sex addict. At the time I didn’t call it that. It was just …

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Girl Porn

Nothing like trying to explain the title of this article to your parents, especially when you are their pastor! I will never forget one of my youth leaders in Texas preaching about her definition of “Girl Porn” and thinking it was completely ridiculous as she tried to persuade a group of hopeless, romantic 16-year-old girls in the 80s about the …

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Does Virginity Signify Purity?

At a young age, I found myself in love with an incredible man. I had a singular focus and couldn’t be bothered by the other boys I found myself surrounded by. The only problem was, my sister and I were in love with the same man. Shocking, I know. My poor mother! Before jumping to conclusions, let me explain my …

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Set Free From Sexual Immorality

Set free from sexual immorality

When I got saved in my late twenties, one of the hardest things I had to deal with was celibacy. I’m sure you can appreciate the battle I was faced with when considering that I had been sexually active since my teenage years. The sin of premarital sex had become such a habit or a way of life for me …

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