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When I Need More Than Small Talk

I don’t like small talk. I like to think that I am average at participating in the activity, but I tend to see it as a means to an end. To me, it is a simple establishment of basic structures so that deeper, more meaningful conversation can eventually take place. Think of it like setting up scaffolding so that serious, …

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Why You’re Settling For The Wrong Person (And What To Do About It)

It was our second date. And quite honestly, one date too many. As I sat across from this man I’d known only a couple of weeks, a million reasons crossed my mind as to why I shouldn’t be there. I’d just witnessed him making fun of someone. He talked non-stop about the other women he’d recently dated. He was arrogant. …

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Hello From The Other Side (Of Dating)

I once was so single that I saw love around every corner: I mistook nearly any new man I met for a heaven-sent husband. That included the man who loved God, but was still caught in serious addiction; the man who loved God, but was dating three other women; and of course the man who disliked God, but paid so …

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Interview: Stephanie Rische – I Was Blind (Dating), But Now I See

When talking to Stephanie Rische, I noticed something rather quickly that I admired greatly: her ability to be graciously honest. Often people will try to cover their struggles and portray a stronger version of themselves for the world to see, but Stephanie didn’t do that because she understands the importance of sharing transparently with others. When we’re open with our …

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What Singles Can Learn From My Three Marriages

My husband and I had an argument last night. As usual, I was trying to prevent an explosion and instead caused one. It’s very disturbing when you try so hard to do the right thing and still fail. I guess that’s where grace comes in. I am a doer. When I see the light, I go for it and too …

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How To Deal With Nasty People

When I was divorced, I was crushed. I lost my sense of self and didn’t fully realize what I was dealing with. It took many years for me to learn what I am sharing here. I had no knowledge or experience in coping with people who are not credible and were not concerned for my well-being. Looking back my weaknesses …

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Opposites Attract. But Should You Run from Yours?

It’s cliché for a reason. At some point in our lives we’ve all experienced the inexplicable draw to someone who is so completely different from us that we begin to believe they actually “complete” the missing parts we see in ourselves. Yes, it’s wonderful to meet someone who has strengths different from our own, or interests that make us get out there and explore …

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Narcissism Part 10: Narcissistic Personality Disorder

Narcissistic Personality Disorder is a mental health diagnosis. Only qualified mental health professionals can or should diagnose NPD. There are thorough and effective assessment tools that a professional can administer, that, combined with other qualitative measures, can make an accurate diagnosis possible. I am not a mental health professional. I’m a pastor. In writing about narcissism, it’s important to me …

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Narcissism Part 9: I’m Not A You, I’m A Me

Differentiation and Individuation are terms used to describe a developmental process everyone needs to go through in their path toward maturity. My (probably oversimplified) understanding of these terms is that in differentiation, I learn that I’m not a you; in individuation, I learn that I am a me. So these are related processes and ideas. They happen together and each affects …

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No-Pressure Dating And The Value Of Friendship

For singles, there’s a lot of pressure these days to find a partner to fall in love with — which equates to a lot of pressure to search for that person through dating. Whether it comes from society’s standards, well-meaning friends, or our own desires, there are quite a few voices out there telling singles to do a lot of …

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