Tag Archives: Single Again

“Doe, a deer, a female deer, ray, a drop of golden sun”… I could just see myself singing it while dancing around the Residenz Fountain in Austria. “Bong, bong” … I could hear Big Ben ringing while sailing on the River Thames. I could get lost in the Sistine Chapel in the Vatican City while admiring the work of Michelangelo. …

When I was divorced, I was crushed. I lost my sense of self and didn’t fully realize what I was dealing with. It took many years for me to learn what I am sharing here. I had no knowledge or experience in coping with people who are not credible and were not concerned for my well-being. Looking back my weaknesses …

“Joy to the World” was playing on the car radio, but I did not feel any joy in my world. It was five days before Christmas — the first Christmas since my divorce and the first one I would spend without my children. They were born like “stair steps” — three babies in 37 months. The older two were in …

When I became single for the second time in my life, it wasn’t part of the plan. Life had taken an abrupt turn, and single motherhood became my new reality. I grieved in the beginning. Not only for the losses my family would suffer, but because it didn’t match what I believed God was calling me toward in ministry. You …

I was an ugly child. At least, if you’d asked me, I’d have told you that. I was reminded of it in a thousand little ways. The way my dad ignored me when I’d try to talk to him. The way he shook his head at everything I did. The way he never came to any of my performances. The …

I nearly cried myself to sleep, but I cried myself awake instead. Stretched out on the small square of carpet by the side of my bed, I wept. Why is it that both love and pain seem to coexist so beautifully? I certainly did not have an answer on that particular day, but that question was the start of a reoccurring …

Love doesn’t come in a heart-shaped box. There is no such person as Prince Charming. A spouse cannot give you “happily ever after.” There. I said it. It’s not pretty, but it’s true. In the second grade I learned that if someone loved you very much there would be a pretty heart-shaped box of candy on your desk on Valentine’s …

Single moms on Valentine’s Day can feel more alone than any other day of the year. I know. I well remember that feeling. You may feel like something or someone is missing. You may not know what to do with yourself. Here are two thoughts on the subject from a Tough Old Bird with a Soft Spot for Single Moms. Valentine’s …

As we begin a new year, what better time to plan for the future and set goals? But as single parents, we can find that difficult to do.  Most of the time survival is at the forefront of our minds. I often see three areas that trouble single mothers: the need for more education, the need for clarity of purpose …