Tag Archives: Single Again

I had just left my husband. I had also just broken up with the man with whom I was having an affair. I was alone. I thought I wanted to be alone, and then on Christmas day I felt the gravity of my decision. I was at my parents’ house surrounded by my siblings. Two of them were married, and …

“I know why I am single. I’m selfish,” said one of the folks at my last speaking event. It was a Friday night in Salisbury, North Carolina. I was speaking at a church on Jesus, Single Like Me material. Before I speak, I love to sit with folks during the meal time to get to know them better. As usual the questions …

When I was raising three kids as a single mother, I was often too exhausted to think straight. I needed direction or a director. Now I’m a tough old bird with a soft spot for single moms, and I learned a few things along the way. Single parents must make an effort to bond with their children. This is important …

Jada’s story Jada’s husband died suddenly and unexpectedly from a heart attack while crossing the finish line of a marathon. He had fulfilled a dream to complete a marathon, but it had cost him his life. In that instant, Jada’s life as she knew it crumbled, and now she had the long, hard journey of raising her three children alone. …

That poem kept coming to mind. It spoke as if God knew how much I wanted someone to love me and stay with me. It spoke of that someone being prepared for me. It also spoke so much more—words that messed with me. My sister had it framed in her room. God was framing it in my heart. I wanted …

When I was 12, I admired my older counterparts. I believed that they held all of the answers and could do anything they wanted. I mean, the people I admired wore makeup, could drive, were fearless and had boyfriends. My priorities were certainly in order. In any case, it’s funny to be 23 years young and still feel 12 at …

The ABCs (Absolute Basic Criteria) for Raising Spiritually Sensitive Children – Part 3 Third in our series on things single parents need to know to raise healthy kids. ABCs for Single Parenting: Part 3 covers G, H & I. The Bible provides sufficient principles for child rearing, but it does not give us a detailed blueprint for every action. Let’s …

Even though divorce has become commonplace and the court system has become efficient at accommodating divorce requests for nearly half of all marriages, it is still devastating. Though it may alleviate the pressure of a failed marriage, it is still painful. It most definitely sucks—it sucks the life out of you, your spouse, your children born from the marriage, your …

I recently met with a mother of young children whose husband has left. He has a girlfriend and has filed for divorce. Her heart and life are ripped to shreds. She is looking directly into a deep and rugged path through a long valley. If you are in such a place, realize that you are facing a rough path, and …

A note from Barbara Coots, Editor of Single Matters: Nate Stevens, speaker and author of Matched 4 Marriage Meant 4 Life: Solving the Mystery of Relationships, encourages singles across the country to take a fresh, scriptural look at matters of the heart. Based on a segment of Mark 12:30—“Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all …