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Beware Of Band-Aid Relationships

Remember when you were little and got a scratch, scrape or “boo boo”? Mom or your caregiver came over with the peroxide or rubbing alcohol to clean your wounded area. Then most likely they put a fresh bandage (Band-Aid, for example) on the affected area so you could go back outside and play. Growing up, how many of us thought …

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Finding And Keeping Your Joy

OK, who remembers that song from Sunday school … “I’ve got the joy down in my heart, where?” Some of those oldies were quite annoying, but the value found in them sticks with me even today. You feel me? In fact, I was thinking about that song the other day and the “WHERE?” really stood out to me. Where is …

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Saying No To Mr. 90% Right

One week after Valentine’s Day, I put the final nail into the coffin of a relationship I knew wasn’t going to work: I made our relationship Facebook official. I met Chris on Match.com. After two years of online dating, I had been on what felt like a million first dates. Mr. Wrong, Mr. Uncommitted, Mr. Finding-Himself – I had met …

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When You’re Stuck In Breakup Limbo

When I was in a 12-step program, it was really easy to be single. It was recommended we not date while on the program, and I knew I was not in a place to date, so I put myself in a 1-year sanction from dating. It was rather comical, because some of my guy friends would ask, “Hey, you think …

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When God Doesn’t Meet Your Expectations

What happens when God doesn’t meet your relationship expectations? If you’ve been single for any amount of time, then you’ve probably had to face this question before. When we were younger, many of us bought into the belief that God had a special person predestined for us, and we would inevitably meet them and fall in love by a certain …

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When We Ask Ourselves Why Am I Not Enough?

I’m so tired of crying. I cried when my first girlfriend and I broke up and I cried when my second girlfriend and I broke up. I felt this deep sadness and despair. I contemplated what I could have done differently to keep the relationship going. I wrestled with those thoughts and tried to put together the jigsaw that seemed …

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The Gift Of Acknowledgement

A few months ago, I went through my first break-up. The song was right when it said, “Breaking up is hard to do.” I produced an impressive amount of salt-water, and within the first week had exited both a bridal shower and a wedding reception with tears spilling down my cheeks. Even though I believed the Lord was leading us to end …

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Are You Using God As A Band-Aid On Your Heart?

There once was a little girl who thought she knew everything. Her mother asked her time and time (and time) again, to stop sitting on her brother’s skateboard to ride it down the steep driveway, but the girl knew better. One day, she decided to blindfold herself and ride the skateboard down the driveway—because doing it with open eyes just …

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How Your Heart Can Hurt And Love At The Same Time

I nearly cried myself to sleep, but I cried myself awake instead. Stretched out on the small square of carpet by the side of my bed, I wept. Why is it that both love and pain seem to coexist so beautifully? I certainly did not have an answer on that particular day, but that question was the start of a reoccurring …

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When You’re In A Relationship Of Convenience

“He married someone else!” she yelped in between sobs. “And I gave him everything. I gave him everything, and he still married someone else!” I didn’t know what to say to this young woman who had confided in me, so I just put my arms around her and let her cry for a few moments. I couldn’t imagine what it …

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