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Getting Up When Stress Holds You Down

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There is nothing more attractive than happy people. They glow inside of themselves. They’re alive with the vibrancy of life. When individuals are stressed, you can see it all over their faces as they are weighed down with the burdens of this world.

In the dating world, if people want to bring their game, they have to be “up.” They walk with a sense of self-assuredness and inner confidence that comes from contentment. During stressful seasons, people can feel as if they’re “waiting on becoming happy.” They’re hoping a circumstance in their lives will change and then they can feel free. The problem is that often as one circumstance is solved, another situation unfolds. So if we are waiting for everything in life to be perfect before we can be happy—it could be a long wait.

Stress steals happiness. It sucks the joy right out of our laugh lines! Therefore an instant deal-breaker is to bring the weight of stress to your date life. Nothing sounds more unattractive than a ranting, stressed-out person. So if you want to be “up,” then don’t let stress weigh you down.

Here are some tips for kicking stress out of your life. By making a few adjustments, you can free yourself up to be happier, vibrant and glowing … as you journey along the road of dating and finding your true love.

5 Tips For Getting Rid Of Stress:

Tip #1: Take care of yourself.

If you are not getting proper sleep, exercise or rest, then you cannot think clearly. Problems that are really small hills can grow into mountains if you don’t have the energy and resiliency to face them.

Tip #2: Know that behind all problems are solutions.

Challenges are learning opportunities in disguise. If you see a problem, then know there is a solution not far behind. With this optimism, you know that problems will not last forever.

Tip #3: Stop using negative “What if …” thinking.

Stress enters our lives through the doorway of negative “What if …” thinking. Over time we can become so focused on our fears that worry gains power in our lives. We find it difficult to distinguish between fear and reality. We live perpetually in a negative thought pattern. “What if … (bad things happen?)” But we can flip those negative thoughts to the positive. Begin focusing on “What if … (great things are about to happen?)” What if you were on the verge of great success? What if you were about to meet the love of your life? Go ahead, begin to imagine good things! What if …

Tip #4: Remember to focus on positives.

What we pay attention to grows. So if you only focus on problems, then you will see nothing but problems. Remember to see the positives along the way. And with an “attitude of gratitude,” you can live in and appreciate the great blessings you have been provided.

Tip #5: Keep perspective.

Talk to people (someone you can trust) about what is happening in your life and the stress you are dealing with through a job or any other area. When we get our feelings out, we can then talk about our issues and gain perspective. Perhaps you are not seeing opportunities because you are so focused on problems.

Remember, stress steals our positive energy that we need for our dating lives. Vitality and positive energy will attract love and positive relationships into our lives. So dealing with stress first is very important before you start your dating adventures!

About Cathy Patterson-Sterling

Cathy Patterson-Sterling is a Christian counselor with a counseling ministry called Real Life Tool Box. She is an author, speaker, wife, mother and friend. Through her counseling ministry, she offers more than 50 e-learning audio play courses to help people grow in faith and have their healthiest relationships. She is passionate about helping people find freedom from fear or other emotional strongholds that are holding them back from living out their greatest potential in God's plans for their lives.
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