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[Podcast] Perfectionism And Performance

When you don’t have a spouse, you tend to process things God is showing you with friends. I recently started a podcast with the intention of letting others hear what God is doing in my single life. I have amazing friends who love people so well. And as singles, we have the unique opportunity to practice on our friends before marriage.

But for me, doing things exactly right tends to haunt me. I want to do it right so I don’t have to learn a lesson again! And there is still a part of me that thinks if I can just be good enough, God will let me be married. I know … it’s not how God works. But it still crosses my mind. Maybe I’m not alone?

So in this podcast, I talked with my good friend, Shelby Harveaux, to discuss what it means to be an imperfect Christian. We talk about how performance-based activity is rooted in shame and perfectionism keeps us from taking chances on great things. Don’t miss the most important lesson I learned from God about judging others. And what is challenging Shelby right now in her transition to L.A. and a new married life.

You can listen to the podcast here or by finding The Jill Monaco Show on iTunes or Google Play. I’d love for you to subscribe too.


  • How Shelby overcame perfectionism in the 4th grade. But did she?
  • What Brene Brown says about the tie between perfectionism and shame.
  • What God showed me about why He advances people when they don’t deserve it.
  • When we judge God as a conditionally loving God.
  • What is challenging Shelby and me right now.
  • What is from God in this season and what isn’t.
  • If God let us do what we want.


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About Jill Monaco

Jill Monaco is the publisher and editor-in-chief of Single Matters magazine and the creator of the program for singles "" As a speaker and author, she is known for captivating audiences with her high-energy, humorous approach to life’s serious issues. She also loves meeting with people one-on-one and helping them encounter God through Freedom Life Coaching. Her passion is to encourage people to pursue the presence of God because it is there that love is poured out upon them so it may be released through them. Her greatest desire is to love people well in the name of Jesus.
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