Singleness is a topic we’ve discussed numerous times. Whether it’s been over coffee at the local coffee spot or while sitting on your couch. We’ve lamented or ranted or complained … or cried. I’ve seen your tears and your struggles, and I’ve seen your strength and resilience too.
God made women both delicate and strong, and that is certainly true of you. You feel the depth of things — you cry during movies and laugh at our friend’s pickle puns. (There are a surprising number of puns about pickles.) You’re moved with compassion when a friend is struggling and move into immediate action to make their day better. That’s just one of the ways I see your strength come through. You don’t crumble under the weight of circumstances or discouragement, but you keep going and pick up any wounded friends along the way.
I hear the determination in your voice as you share with me your commitment to love Jesus well. Even if that means never getting married. They’re not just empty words because I’ve seen the way you serve and give of your time. You do it with such joy and love for God and His people. You’re not wasting your time by sitting around pining for a man, that’s for sure!
You’re so much more than a faithful servant, but I see the way you carve out time to sit at the feet of Jesus. Life is busy and hectic, and we’ve got 900 things on today’s to-do list alone, but it’s there where I see you taking moments to stop and pray or worship or simply take in the beauty of God’s creation.
Singleness hasn’t been easy. We’ve admitted that, but we’ve also discussed the cost of marrying the wrong man. A cost we aren’t willing to pay. Settling hasn’t even been a thought, and that’s just one of the things I admire most about you. You’re not willing to make a rash decision to fulfill moments of loneliness, but in those moments I’ve seen you lean even harder into the loving arms of Jesus.
I’ve often wondered why a guy hasn’t chosen you … yet. It doesn’t make sense, and yet I see you trusting despite the questions. We do have questions. Many of them, but most of the time we’re OK with letting them hang unanswered, because we don’t have all the answers. We don’t know why that guy picked her over you. We don’t know why he hasn’t noticed or why there doesn’t seem to be a single guy in a 50-mile radius of us!
Which reminds me: We laugh a lot, too, because sometimes singleness can be hilarious. It depends on the day, but many times we can laugh about it. We talk about the perks that come with singleness and truly, truly enjoy them.
You’re living a beautiful life, friend. I know it doesn’t look like what you thought it would by now. I know you’ve got a desire for a husband and a family of your own, and I believe it’s coming. It IS coming. Until then, be encouraged, knowing that your faithfulness has not gone unnoticed. I’m grateful to be living life with you.
Now, let’s go get some ice cream!