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Can You Enjoy Being Single On Valentine’s Day?

You know what really grinds my gears? When people try to deflate someone else’s dreams.

This year I have to ask: Am I the only one who enjoys Valentine’s Day? I am a romantic, though at some points in my life it was hard to admit. But now I don’t find anything wrong with celebrating love.

Are you one of those who makes handwritten letters and cards, writes and expresses poetry and songs, who sees something special in the little things, who puts thought into how to show love to their loved ones, friends and family? There’s nothing wrong with that romantic bone in your body!

See, Valentine’s Day tends to cater to the coupled folks, whereas singles like you and me are left to have other plans of perceived nothingness and despair. We are pitied because we don’t have someone to celebrate “it” with — yet. Having “it,” as in a special someone that we can be lovey-dovey with. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to have someone to love. Have you read the Song of Solomon? It’s a celebratory book of two lovers betrothed and in love. It’s romance at its best, and it’s in the Bible, folks! Gotta love it.

Just because I don’t have a date for Valentine’s Day doesn’t mean I can’t enjoy the day or make plans. What else would I do the rest of the year as a single?

On this special day, or any other day for that matter, show yourself some love by doing something nice for yourself. The benefit of singleness is you don’t have to rely on or wait for someone to treat you the way you want to be treated. Take yourself out, buy yourself flowers. Above all else, remember how much God loves you today! Bask in His love and have a new song in your heart for Him. Tell the Father you love Him and why. Get into worship and get out of any negative attitude.

Sure, a true romantic person can do a grand gesture on any day of the year, but when this season comes around you can’t help but celebrate love with those around you. If you don’t have a significant other, you have family, friends and possibly pets to show love to. And there’s nothing wrong with that.

I remember hanging out with my friends at a White Castle for their Valentine’s Day “dinner.” We dressed up to the nines and took pictures in front of a giant heart made out of White Castle containers. The evening was complete with a menu and great service! It was a fun and memorable occasion.

So whether you are a softy underneath the surface, or you are a hopeful romantic, its okay to admit that you like Valentine’s Day or want to celebrate it. Romance and love are beautiful, and even more so when God is present. After all, they came from Him.

My prayer is that you enjoy the day regardless — it’s a gift from the gracious gift giver: our Father God! Be blessed, my fellow beloveds!

About Tatianah Green

Tatianah Green is a multimedia content creator and editor with a passion for writing. In 2012 she launched the blog BLISSforSingles.com {Black Love & Inspiration for Saved Singles} to encourage singles in faith and love. She is also a contributing writer for several other websites including Culture and God, Black and Married With Kids, and The Wire Hanger By Winnie. She recently published her first book entitled Journey to 30: A Single Woman's Guide to Living Unapologetically Without Deadlines. As she embraces her thirties, Tatianah works, plays and lives unapologetically for Christ in Chicago.
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