Dear Single Heart,
I know you are lonely. I get that you are exhausted from the trying and effort. I understand the heaviness as you wait for the promise. I know the pain from the random gut punches when the reality of singleness hits all too well. You probably ask God the same questions: When? Why? What? How? You probably complain to Him like I do too.
I’m in your same boat, Single Heart, and I want so badly to tell you something.
People often ask me how I do it, how I’m so content. Oh, goodness, how I wish I could give some grand secret and cure your loneliness immediately, but I can’t. However, let’s pretend for one moment that I’m taking your heart to coffee. You and me, hearts bared, tears spilling, defenses crushed. I would look you right in the eye and say, “Stop waiting, stop seeking, stop dwelling.” When you look at me with a bewildered head tilt, I would say:
I’m not satisfied with my single status. I want and long and dream just as you do. However, my soul, my very being is content in Christ and is continually rejoicing in Him. I don’t have this down by any means, and it sure isn’t easy, but it’s a choice I have made and a choice I have to renew continually.
My choice is to WAIT in Jesus and on His timing.
My choice is to SEEK the face of Jesus more and more daily.
My choice is to DWELL in Him alone.
You see, when you continuously choose to do these things, the ache is softened, the blows are less and your strength is renewed every day.
And then, when the enemy attacks (because he is going to), you are ready and able to remind him that your divine romance trumps all. The truth is that the Lover of your soul is in constant pursuit of your heart. He is so enamored with you that you can’t even imagine it.
So for you whose faith is tired, whose hope is misplaced … stop the waiting, seeking, dwelling for your spouse and start the waiting, seeking, dwelling for your King. Dance with Him as He lavishes His love upon you. Allow Him to wrap you snugly in His sweet embrace.
After I told you all of that over our tears and coffee, I would hug you so tight. I would tell you that your husband/wife is coming soon, so don’t lose heart. Keep trusting. Keep obeying. Keep going.
Wait for the LORD; Be strong and let your heart take courage; Yes, wait for the LORD. (Psalm 27:14)