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Holding Out For Sex

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“And let us not lose heart and grow weary and faint in acting nobly and doing right, for in due time and at the appointed season we shall reap, if we do not loosen and relax our courage and faint” Galatians 6:9 (AMP).

Have you ever read this verse and hoped it also applied to holding out for sex?

Sometimes when you are in a relationship, you have to ask whether or not you are going to give up your virginity for a few brief moments of sexual pleasure. Even though I’m not writing about sex today, I’d like to use that as an analogy. The desire for intimacy through sex (which is a good desire because it was created by God) isn’t all that different than some of your other desires. Desire is there, so we press on with faith to believe God will fulfill His promises. I’d like to challenge you to hold out and believe God’s promises. Just like with sex on your wedding day, when desires are fulfilled in God’s timing you are blessed.

The entire Bible illustrates over and over again God’s promises and their fulfillment. He told the serpent in the Garden of Eden that a child would crush his head. Thousands of years later Jesus is born. He told Abraham that he would have a son by his wife who was well past childbearing age. Approximately 25 years from that day, Sarah had Isaac. He told Moses that he would lead his people to a land of milk and honey. Forty years later, Joshua and Caleb entered the promised land. He promised Hannah, who had been barren, that she would have a son. Hannah had Samuel.

Holding Out for the Promise

One of the most difficult things to do is to hold on to a promise from God that looks like it will never happen. There are so many things that come against His promises. In my prayer time, God showed me that sometimes the problem is that we don’t have a personal promise. A personal promise is one that comes straight from God to you.

The Timing of the Promise

Then there is this thing called time. What is it about time that makes us become so anxious? I guess it’s becauase we set up an expectation that things are supposed to happen quickly … or is it the world we live in? We’ve been trying to conquer time since the invention of transportation. We want to get there faster. The simple fact is that healthy outcomes usually take time.

Who set the time limit on when a seed produces fruit? Who set the time of pregnancy at 40 weeks? Who set the time for his promise to you to manifest in your life? I didn’t, and neither did you.

Holding On to the Promise and Letting Go of the Timing

The passing of time causes doubt to creep in. We begin to wonder, “Did He really give me those promises?” Then we start to develop our own plan of how to manifest the promise, but our way requires our own strength to produce the results. When we stick to God’s way, His strength will produce results.

Has God promised you a mate, a career you love or a baby? Are you over 30 and still holding out ?

Here are four P’s to help you hold on to the promise of God.

1. Pray for the Promise

Spend time in prayer, asking God for a personal promise. There is nothing more special than hearing a promise from your Heavenly Father. Luke 11:9-10 says, “Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives, and the one who seeks finds, and to the one who knocks it will be opened.”

2. Pen the Promise

Write it down. Habakkuk 2:3 tells us to write the vision: make it plain on tablets, so he may run who reads it. For still the vision awaits its appointed time; it hastens to the end—it will not lie. If it seems slow, wait for it; it will surely come; it will not delay.

3. Plant the Promise

Once you have received God’s promise, put it in your heart. Psalm 119:11 says, “I have hidden your word in my heart that I might not sin against you.” Read Mark 4, which talks about planting the seed in good soil.

4. Preserve the Promise

The word “preserve” has several definitions: to keep alive; to keep safe from harm; to keep possession of. In order for your promise to stay alive, you must preserve it with the Word of God. Preservation also comes as you share your promise with others who will stand in faith with you.

Don’t give in to a few moments of passing pleasure and fulfill the promise your way. God is trustworthy. God is faithful. Even though you may be tempted to take the promise into your own hands, choose to wait upon God’s timing.

Holding out is worth it.

About Kiasi Valentine

Kiasi is passionate about ministry and helping people realize God's purpose for their lives. She enjoys sharing personal life lessons to help others navigate through difficult life experiences and loves being a facilitator of freedom and empowerment. Kiasi works as a ministry coordinator in the Stewardship Department at Gateway Church in Southlake, Texas. Her greatest joy is being the mom of her two precious sons, Joshua and Caleb.
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