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How To Handle Rejection

    The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. –Psalm 34:18 (NIV)

When you feel insignificant, abandoned or rejected, remember God sees where you are. And He throws no one away.

I was recently betrayed and abruptly discarded by some friends over a silly misunderstanding. But God interrupted my rejection pity party by reminding me of the story of Ishmael, the son Abraham conceived with his wife’s servant, Hagar. From this story, God reassured me of His constant love and sovereign involvement in my life, regardless of how people treat me.

God’s Promises and Our Unbelief

If you recall, God previously promised Abraham and Sarah a son who would be the start of a long line of descendants and large nations. Since they were both long past child-bearing, each passing year with no pregnancy made God’s promise seem highly improbable. So, to help God along, Sarah devised an irrational plan that Abraham did not question — although he should have.

Doubting she would have a child of her own, Sarah offered Hagar to Abraham. Her reasoning was that he could impregnate her servant and bring about God’s promise. Unbelievably, Abraham went along with the plan. He slept with Hagar and conceived Ishmael. But this was not the son of God’s promise; this was the son of an ill-conceived, immoral and faithless plan.

God’s Faithfulness and Our Consequences 

As you may have guessed, Sarah’s plan backfired. The servant girl gave Abraham something her master could never take away. This triggered instant friction between the two women, fueled by jealousy, disgust, contempt and competition. Sarah mistreated Hagar so much that Hagar eventually ran away. But God, in His love and mercy, met her in her misery and promised that her son would also be the father of many descendants. He defended and provided for them, the scorned and rejected outcasts.

When God later repeated his covenant with Abraham to make him the father of many nations, Abraham doubted the promised heir would come through Sarah. Instead he asked God to bless Ishmael; in essence, asking God to bless his feeble, faithless attempt to fulfill God’s promise. God blessed Ishmael. But He reiterated His plan to build His chosen people — the future nation of Israel — from Isaac, not Ishmael.

Fast-forward 14 years to when Isaac finally arrived. The combined family soon developed a problem. Ishmael, as an ornery teenager from the scorned, lowly, illegitimate side of the family, made fun of Sarah and her newborn, legitimate, promised son. Although we don’t know what he said; we do know it made Sarah angry. She immediately demanded Hagar and Ishmael be disowned and removed. Against Abraham’s wishes, they were discarded as problematic, worthless and insignificant.

God’s Mercy and Our Pain

But God did not forget them or His earlier promise to Hagar. As they wandered in the wilderness, He spoke with Hagar. Homeless, abandoned, humiliated, hot and thirsty, Hagar expected to die in the desert. But while others rejected her and Ishmael, God reassured them of His care for their future. Though not the son of God’s promise, Ishmael was the innocent offspring of Abraham and Sarah’s mistake. God didn’t reject, curse or kill Ishmael; He protected and provided for him. Thank God that, in His sovereignty, He blesses and fulfills His own purposes, but He also protects the innocent, discarded and forgotten.

When feelings of abandonment, insignificance or rejection overwhelm you, remind yourself God has not forgotten you. He knows right where you are. He will always care about you, will always love you and will always be there for you — even when your colleagues, friends or family reject you. As Hagar did, present yourself before God; open your heart to Him, and trust Him to provide and care for you.

From the story of Ishmael, here are the reminders God wants to encourage you with:

  • You are valuable to God: Accept your value from, and find affirmation in, Him.
  • He loves you: Trust Him implicitly for what is best for you.
  • He will never leave you: Cherish and strengthen your relationship with Him.
  • He has a purpose for your life: Serve Him with the skills, talents and gifts He has given you.
  • He enjoys spending time with you: Get quiet, listen and bask in His presence.

He gives you the promise that He is faithful and merciful to the rejected. He has a great plan for you.

About Nate Stevens

A missionary kid raised in a Christian home and church, Nate Stevens is a lifelong student of Scripture. He has enjoyed a 36-year banking career in a variety of leadership roles. He is the author of "Matched 4 Life," "Matched 4 Life Workbook," "Deck Time with Jesus," and contributes to the Moments book series (Divine Moments, Spoken Moments, Stupid Moments, etc.). He co-leads a singles ministry in the Charlotte, NC area and is a popular speaker / teacher at conferences, seminars and Bible study groups, speaking on a wide variety of topics. Nate currently lives near Charlotte, North Carolina, is a newlywed to his beautiful wife, Karen, and is an active dad with two awesome kids, Melissa and Mitchell.
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