Karen and I have learned that one of the keys to making a successful marriage is being there for each other. We’ve discovered that what is burdensome for one of us is not necessarily difficult for the other. Here’s a simple example.
Karen is five-foot-five and slender. At one time she had back problems of which the Lord subsequently healed her. I’ve found that she can easily be worn down by too rigorous a schedule. You see, she wakes up at 4:30 in the morning, has an hour and a half of quiet time, exercises for an hour and a half, and is the hardest worker you’ll ever see in your life. She’s very diligent. But she simply is not equipped for lifting and carrying things around the house. So I ease her burden by doing all of that kind of thing that I can.
I’m Mr. Tote-It, Fetch-It, Lift-It and Hoist-It at our house.
I go through the house picking things up. I vacuum, carry the groceries in and generally just look for ways to help her with my physical strength. These things are not a burden to me. And they ease what is burdensome for her.
In the same way, running errands around town, such as picking up the dry cleaning, and detail work such as getting the bills paid is burdensome for me. Bill paying is a joyless chore to me. As a result, I would have trouble finding the time to sit down and take care of it. But Karen loves paying the bills. She happily takes care of those kinds of things for me.
What is easy for me can be difficult for Karen, and vice versa. We bear each other’s burdens. Why? Because that’s what best friends do.
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