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Is He Just Being Nice Or Is He Interested?

I came to Christ in my 30s and have been single for nearly 10 years. A man has been talking to me a lot at my church, but I’m not sure if he is just being nice or is interested in pursuing me. I’m not sure how to flirt or let him know I’m interested.

Well first let me say, “How exciting!” I always love the adventure that the prospect of a new relationship can bring, regardless whether it works out or not.

Men are typically quite intentional and purposeful in what they do. If I had to make an assumption, I would say he is trying to “safely” express his interest. I am a believer in the direct route. I recommend having an open discussion with him, just saying that you are interested in where things are going. He may be waiting for a signal from you that it’s safe and you are interested in him. I feel that everything we do should have purpose; otherwise we are wasting our own time or the time of those around us.

I don’t want to see you get stuck waiting to see whether he may or may not be interested, and miss out on someone amazing God has for you during that time. Remember, when having a conversation like this it is important to set a time, have a place and make a plan. If you do these things, it will be easier to direct the conversation and achieve a desired outcome. This will ensure you are able to say what is on your heart and not let your nerves get the best of you.

I am so excited to see what may come for you! Regardless of the outcome, God is in control and He has a great plan for you and your future Mr. Right.

Doc Matters


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